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When I read stories about child abuse/murder...

racegirl723racegirl723 member
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...it makes me wish that I was rich so I could intervene and adopt them or do something to make a difference in their life.  I totally get that children regardless of age can be frustrating and exhausting, but they are such innocent and beautiful souls that these stories just break my heart.  I wish we had better medical care and counseling for new parents.  I wish we had better CPS resources to monitor and intervene.  I wish we had more good parents willing to adopt children in need (to me the only thing worse than an abusive parent is an abusive foster parent or adoptive parent).  I can totally understand how people like that couple in FL that were murdered would want to adopt 19 kids.  I wish I had the resources to do something.
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  • happilyhishappilyhis member
    I just emailed my husband saying (AGAIN) that I must find a way to get involved in the fight against child abuse. I don't want to just donate to some organization or anything else that sounds right but doesn't make a difference. I'm sick of hearing about it, it is one of the only things that flat out depresses me in a matter of seconds, and I want to DO something. What can I do???
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  • jen_k2jen_k2

    imagehappilyhis:
    I just emailed my husband saying (AGAIN) that I must find a way to get involved in the fight against child abuse. I don't want to just donate to some organization or anything else that sounds right but doesn't make a difference. I'm sick of hearing about it, it is one of the only things that flat out depresses me in a matter of seconds, and I want to DO something. What can I do???

    Our local domestic violence shelter takes donations in the form of $ & supplies to help counsel children while they are at the shelter & afterwards. The advocates say that immediate counseling will help w/emotional problems & also prevent them from becoming abusers in the future. (I'm not saying that all abused children become abusers!) Also, donated funds are used to help the women pay rent for a new apartment & get them ready for a job. This helps keep the children from going back to an abusive household. Women who don't have any means to support themselves & no source of single-parent support often end up going back to the same situation. This puts the children at risk & the abuser often hurts the children too. You'd be surprised at how many women that stay at the shelters have infants.All I'm saying is that the funds do sometimes make a difference.

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    I cannot even bring myself to read or watch those stories anymore. I just can't handle them and knowing that there's nothing I can do while reading or watching that story just breaks my heart. I know I can do something in the big scheme of things but reading that story about what's already happened, it's just too much.

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  • zeppelinettezeppelinette
    I wish that people just didn't do harmful things to children at all.. I don't understand how someone could do something so horrible and I never will. my boyfriend was thrown around the room by his biological father when he was 3 months old, half the bones in his body were broken and he was in the hospital for 6 months and then placed into a foster family which he grew up with, and that family was also abusive! he still struggles with these issues every day and he is 25 and has no contact with either family. it never goes away
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  • JillAlyJillAly member

    It varies from state to state but many allow non-lawyers to be a guardian ad litem for children going through family court proceedings.  You go through a training provided by family court.  Check your local courts.  You definitely can help - there are so many children in need!

    Oh- a guardian ad litem is the child's advocate in a court.  They look out for their interestes - like keeping them away from an abusive parent and advocating for programs that will help the child. 

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  • oceanloveroceanlover

    I was just going to post something like this ~ I have been getting so caught up in these stories lately, and they just....break me. I cry at work. I can't work. shaken babies, abused children -  I just can't take it anymore!

    Baby Brianna, Noahs Road, the stories below....

    Thanks for the tips above...I think I need to stay away from these stories for awhile.

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  • happilyhishappilyhis member
    imageJillAly:

    It varies from state to state but many allow non-lawyers to be a guardian ad litem for children going through family court proceedings.  You go through a training provided by family court.  Check your local courts.  You definitely can help - there are so many children in need!

    Oh- a guardian ad litem is the child's advocate in a court.  They look out for their interestes - like keeping them away from an abusive parent and advocating for programs that will help the child. 

    Thanks so much for the info - I am so going to look into this!

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  • Temp778367875008010Temp778367875008010
    HappilyHis - I know there is a pretty solid guardian ad litem program in FL.  My old boss was one and she really spoke highly of the program.  Also, a lot of shelters do group events for kids staying there, and they usually can use volunteers, even if its just coming to play with the kids for the day.
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