WWYD? 13mnth old and bf's baby shower?

ascbride · August 2009

Ladies- I need your opinions, I have a dilemma! My bf's (also dd's godmother) luncheon to celebrate her upcoming new baby is Saturday. This is her second baby,her oldest dc is 3 years old. Her sister sent out the invites. On the invite it says you and your significant other, well DH has to work so it would just be me, however I would have DD with me, because there's no where else for her to go and frankly as a working mom I look forward to our weekends together and don't want to send her off to the babysitter (who's not available anyway), my mom has to work too and we just got in a major fight so that's out of the question. Anyway I asked bf's sister if I could bring DD and basically she said, no, but if you can't find a sitter yes. Should I just skip the luncheon or take DD and feel awkward the whole time. BF says her dd #1 will be there, "because there is no where else for her to go"... they just really seemed opposed to having kids there.... Which is weird to me because all of the couples have children, some have 2 or 3 children. So, wwyd?

ABMcKinney · August 2009

It sounds like your child won't be the only one there? I'd take her.

Gina418 · August 2009

Take her - if she's your best friend she will understand you're in a bind with finding a babysitter.

NewlywednOhio · August 2009

Since your BF's child is there, I would take yours as well. Maybe bring a large blanket and some toys for them both to play on during the luncheon. Have fun!

Libramom2b · August 2009

If the host said no, I would not take her.

kmgourley · August 2009

I'd take her. Seriously. This is not a wedding reception or a black tie dinner. It is a baby shower for someone who even already has a toddler/preschooler. She'll understand. The "no kids allowed" thing is ridiculous (in this situation and so many others). There were kids at my baby shower and I like it and expected it. I'd feel ridiculous if someone wanted to bring their kid but the hostess told them they couldn't.

pinksweetpea2 · August 2009

As long as you truly made the effort to find a sitter, and couldn't, then take her. That is what the hostess told you, right?

I don't see anything wrong with wanting to have a shower without a bunch of kids around- it is nice to have an opportunity to really talk to other women rather than chasing your kid around and trying to get a few words inbetween.

Even if I did have a problem with it (as many on here obviously do), it still wouldn't matter- it is not my place to judge or say anything as I am not the one doing all the work. That is good manners IMO.

jen_k2 · August 2009

I personally don't have a problem w/kids at a shower, but if a host told me no, I'd feel awkward going. I'd maybe go for a little while (1/2 hr) if it was my BF though to extend congrats, then excuse myself using DC's nap as an excuse.

ascbride · August 2009

yea, jen_k2 I thought about just going for a quick little hello, but it's a two hour drive away, so I'd really hate to drive all that way for such a little amount of time. Oh gosh, what to do!