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Worried about being away over night...

CyrbiaCyrbia
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...for a few nights.

I have a scheduled c-section for DC #2 and will be in the hospital for at least two nights, maybe 3.

Just wondering what anyone might suggest to make this easier on DS. I've been gone over night before, but with DH and never more than one night.

DH goes to work sometimes in a way that he'll go two days without seeing our son and then when he gets home our son will have what we call "seperation resentment" for at least a day or two. I'm just worried that I'll be dealing with the same thing AND having to care for a newborn too.

Help?

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Re: Worried about being away over night...

  • akgramakgram
    When I had DD#2 it was only the second time I had been away from DD#1 and I felt the exact same way.  I was very worried and almost sick about it.  My inlaws were going to be in town so they were going to stay with DD#1 at our house until we came home.  It made me feel better to have DH come home on night #2 &#3 and put DD to bed and stay here with her.  I was fine at the hosp. and DD#2 was in the NICU so I didn't need the help.  I made sure that they brought DD#1 up to the hosp. in the morning and she hung out until naptime and then came back later in the day.  It worked out well and DD#1 adjusted just fine once we returned back home.  You may be surprised on how well he adjusts.  Good luck and try not to worry too much (easier said than done, I know).
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  • LauraandMattLauraandMatt
    I am worried about this too, I will be in from Thurs- Sun and have only left DS once overnight.  Fortunately, my mom is coming to town to stay with us and will be here for DS overnight and all day.  DH will also be coming home most likely (love him dearly but he was NO help in the hospital with DS- want him to rest for when we get home, he was amazing w/ DS then).  The thing is that DS hasn't seen my mom for months and she is coming in 2 days before my scheduled c/s so I worry about him adjusting to her again too.
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  • mlf625mlf625
    It's still far off for me, but I hate the thought of being away from DS for 3 nights (I'll also have a c/s). ?Our plan is to have my mom arrive a week before my c/s and spend a lot of time with DS. ?That way she'll have his routine down and by the time I go, he'll be used to having her here. ?They'll come visit each day at the hospital as well. ?I'm hoping the extra "grandma" time before mommy disappears will help ease him into it AND make me less anxious.
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  • HappyTXChickHappyTXChick
    My sister (who my DS absolutely LOVES!) stayed at our house with him.  It made me feel better knowing he was at home rather than staying at someone else's house.  She took him to "school" each morning and then brought him to the hospital every afternoon (I too had a c/s and was in the hospital 3 nights).  When they came to the hospital we tried to let my sister spend time with DD and we would take DS for walks around the hospital and try to spend alone time with him.  We were careful to introduce him to his new sister in short doses those days.  Each day he happily told us "bye-bye" and went home with my sister.
    I was surprised at how well he handled it all. 
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