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Not sure what to do: A friend's 2 year old drowned yesterday

BetchySproutBetchySprout member
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What can I do?

What would you like done in the situation? We are going to the funeral and probably the visiting hours (we are in MN on vacation, the funeral is at home in NY on Saturday). 

2 years old (2 years 10 days old...tragic). 

 

I posted this on 6-12 and thought I would put it out here if anyone had any ideas for me. We are not overly close, she is DH's ex girlfriend who I became friends with after she was married and had a child. We see each other now and again, I just saw her the other day. 

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Re: Not sure what to do: A friend's 2 year old drowned yesterday

  • MrsjulybrideMrsjulybride
    I think a card telling her that you cannot know the depth of her sorrow but expressing your condolences is the only thing you can do. I'm so sorry - I think in situations like this it's best to be honest and admit that you're at a loss but that you're thinking of her and her family nonetheless.?
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  • ezbakejessezbakejess

    That's so terrible :( I'm so sorry for your friend. 

    I agree with PP. Also, my two cents:

    1 - don't try to explain it away- such as "God has a plan, this was his time, everything happens for a reason".  

    2 - the hardest time for her is going to be in a few months, when everyone else has "forgotten". She will never forget, so a little "thinking of you" card in 3 months, 6 months, a year, his birthday, whenever will mean a lot.

     I also agree with pp. I also can't begin to imagine what she's going through. Just being there for her will mean a lot. 

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  • DereKimDereKim member
    if you're not close to her i would just send a card. shes probably getting bombarded with calls, flowers, etc. i would just give her her space since your not really friends.
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  • vkbaby09vkbaby09
    imageezbakejess:

    That's so terrible :( I'm so sorry for your friend. 

    I agree with PP. Also, my two cents:

    1 - don't try to explain it away- such as "God has a plan, this was his time, everything happens for a reason".  

    2 - the hardest time for her is going to be in a few months, when everyone else has "forgotten". She will never forget, so a little "thinking of you" card in 3 months, 6 months, a year, his birthday, whenever will mean a lot.

     I also agree with pp. I also can't begin to imagine what she's going through. Just being there for her will mean a lot. 

    Couldn't have said it better!  How sad Sad

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  • amandaoooooamandaooooo member
    imageezbakejess:

    That's so terrible :( I'm so sorry for your friend. 

    I agree with PP. Also, my two cents:

    1 - don't try to explain it away- such as "God has a plan, this was his time, everything happens for a reason".  

    2 - the hardest time for her is going to be in a few months, when everyone else has "forgotten". She will never forget, so a little "thinking of you" card in 3 months, 6 months, a year, his birthday, whenever will mean a lot.

     I also agree with pp. I also can't begin to imagine what she's going through. Just being there for her will mean a lot. 

     I totally agree with Jess, mabye visit her in a few weeks and bring dinner. By then a lot of the chaos surrounding the funeral will have gone away and she may be feeling particulary lonely. The pain she must be in is unfathomable.

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