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What are the odds I don't hurt MIL

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We are going to the beach this weekend with dh's family, including MIL. MIL has been known to be a tad BSC (ok more than a tad) but had been relatively sane lately. Well that all ended Sunday.

I was going to give ds a bath and she snatch him from me and plopped him the top. He was screaming for me and trying to climb out of the tub to get to me. I went to get him and she pushed me out of the way (yes, physically pushed me) and told me she had it. It took alot of restraint not to haul off and hit her. The whole time ds was screaming at the top of his lungs.

DH came in to see what the problem was and didn't help one bit. Later, I told him what she did and he defended her saying she was trying to help. I went on to say that if she pulled that this weekend we would have a very, big problem.

Oh did I mention I have to drive down with her by myself on Friday and dh is coming until Saturday night? Good times. 

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  • vanillacouragevanillacourage member
    If she pushed me when I was trying to get to my child, I'd holler for DH to come throw his b!tch of a mother out of our house.  For reals. 

    You already know this, but you have a DH problem.  And I would not drive down with her alone, I'd just wait and drive with DH.
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  • CalifloridaCaliflorida member

    wow, pushed you?  jeez... did she think she could just force your kid to enjoy his bath with her?

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  • Pacheco825Pacheco825 member
    Wow you handled that way too well. I would have flipped sh!t!!!!
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  • smfinallymgsmfinallymg

    imagevanillacourage:
    If she pushed me when I was trying to get to my child, I'd holler for DH to come throw his b!tch of a mother out of our house.  For reals. 

    You already know this, but you have a DH problem.  And I would not drive down with her alone, I'd just wait and drive with DH.

    Don't know that! And it's bigger than just this. I wish I didn't have to drive alone with her but I'm kinda stuck. I might just sit in the back with ds and nap. Thankfully, my SIL will be there to keep me sane and help me out with MIL until DH gets there.

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  • LoriFalceLoriFalce member

    I'd explain to DH that if it happens again, MIL better know how to breathe underwater, and if he has a problem with that, he should address it with her ahead of time.

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  • smfinallymgsmfinallymg
    imageCaliflorida:

    wow, pushed you?  jeez... did she think she could just force your kid to enjoy his bath with her?

    That is exactly what she was doing. She was ignoring him screaming and kept saying "Look a cup. Look bubbles. Splash, splash."

    I know I handled all too well but I've tried the other alternative. At that point, it was just not worth it. I didn't need to get into a screaming match with her while ds was already upset.

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  • talentedgirltalentedgirl
    Maybe you could "accidently" leave her behind at a rest stop and get DH to pick her up the next day.
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  • smfinallymgsmfinallymg
    imageLoriFalce:

    I'd explain to DH that if it happens again, MIL better know how to breathe underwater, and if he has a problem with that, he should address it with her ahead of time.

    I like how you think.

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  • Temp174496125006552Temp174496125006552 member
    I think you handled it the right way.  Your DS was upset already.  Seeing you and your MIL in a screaming match would have made things worse.  But you can be damn sure that I would have pulled her aside afterwards to tell her that that was the first and last time she ever put her hands on me.  I wouldn't tolerate that BS for a nanosecond.
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  • 1MusicMaker1MusicMaker

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    I think you handled it the right way.  Your DS was upset already.  Seeing you and your MIL in a screaming match would have made things worse.  But you can be damn sure that I would have pulled her aside afterwards to tell her that that was the first and last time she ever put her hands on me.  I wouldn't tolerate that BS for a nanosecond.

    I agree--arguing in front of a screaming child wouldn't have accomplished anything good. But seriously--you aren't going to address this?  And by address this, I mean have DH talk to his crazy_ass mom?

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    image1MusicMaker:

    I agree--arguing in front of a screaming child wouldn't have accomplished anything good. But seriously--you aren't going to address this?  And by address this, I mean have DH talk to his crazy_ass mom?

    Oh I want to address it all right. If he won't, than I might just take the opportunity to do it during our 2.5 hour drive Friday. I know what she did was unacceptable. I think if he would have saw what she did, he might feel differently.

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  • IckyThumpIckyThump

    sm, you're a bigger person than I am because I would not have anything to do with this woman after all of the crap she's pulled. I still remember last summer - every week it was something else!

    Hopefully everyone survives the vacation...

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    imageIckyThump:

    sm, you're a bigger person than I am because I would not have anything to do with this woman after all of the crap she's pulled. I still remember last summer - every week it was something else!

    Hopefully everyone survives the vacation...

    Don't remind me of last year. But, honestly, she was getting better and I could tolerate her. Well that flew out the window!

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  • 1MusicMaker1MusicMaker
    Oh good!  Glad you are going to say something to DH/MIL.  I'm sorry she is treating you this way...how frustrating.
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  • skoorbniborskoorbnibor member
    you are a better woman than I, cause I think I might've pushed HER in the tub
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  • Nancy_LouiseNancy_Louise
    I can just imagine my reaction.  I woulda grabbed a fistful of hair, shoved her aside and grabbed DS.
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  • CFOCFO
    Oh hell no.  I would have had that baby back out of the tub so fast.  You have restraint, woman, and patience...  Do you have to go?  I would tell DH I was staying due to MIL's physical violence and lack of concern for what's best w/ your DS.  I would raise hell.  But that's me.
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