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How would u bring this up to DH

ashleigh1984ashleigh1984
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

We agreed that we were only going to have one child after all the problems with my first pregnacy.(sever pre-e) Also after DS had a hole in his lung at birth. While I have come to the conclusion I want a nother one, and Do not want to go back on the bill. After having my Mirena removed, on thursday. How would you tell him this, I dont want to up set him 

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Re: How would u bring this up to DH

  • GramysonGramyson member

    well, does he know you removed the mirena?

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  • adamwifeadamwife

    You just need to have a talk with him.  He may be upset, but if he realizes it would make you really happy, maybe he'll come around.

    Good luck!

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  • vab1216vab1216

    Does he know you are having the mirena removed? If so, he is under the impression you are getting on the pill? Do you want to TTC asap?

    Maybe it is a little soon to discuss it with him if you think it will upset him. Maybe wait a little longer and just tell him how you feel. 

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  • ashleigh1984ashleigh1984
    imageGramyson:

    well, does he know you removed the mirena?

    yes, I would never do something like that with out telling him. I was having to many issues with it

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  • mrse1107mrse1107
    Like pps said, does he know about the Mirena? because that I could see him getting upset about that you took yourself off birth control w/out discussing that with him.

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  • GramysonGramyson member
    ok awesome.  i would just talk to him about...make a list of the pros and cons of having another baby.  i would also write down what i want to say, sometimes getting thoughts on paper helps you sort through your emotions, ykwim?  good luck!
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  • ashleigh1984ashleigh1984

    what does ykwim mean?

     

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  • GramysonGramyson member
    imageashleigh1984:

    what does ykwim mean?

     

    you know what i mean

    :)

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  • kem717kem717 member
    imageashleigh1984:

    what does ykwim mean?

     

    you know what I mean

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  • aew82aew82 member
    You Know What I Mean-YKWIM
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  • ashleigh1984ashleigh1984
    Im suppose to start the pill tomorrow
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  • QuazelQuazel member

    This has to be a decision you make together.  You need to talk to him.  You can't just decide not to take the pill unless you guys are willing to use a barrier method until you are on the same page.  You never know, he may be thinking about another one too. 

    I would raise it as something you have been thinking about and would like to know what he is thinking.  If he says he isn't interested, tell him you are and you would appreciate him giving it some thought and discussing it in a few days.  I would then be prepared with my pros and cons.  If you jump right into something big, he may feel overwhelmed and ambushed.

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  • *KatieH**KatieH*
    Do you know what the cause of pre-e was? Some drs will say that you aren't likely to get pre-e with your second pregnancy. ?So you may want to talk to your doctor about that. ?Good luck with your talk!
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