Why do women torture themselves?

DaniGirl0517 · August 2009

I honestly don't get it. I have heard women banter back and forth seeming to joke about their significant others until it becomes a match of who has the worst guy or who has more to deal with under the pretense of sharing and venting. I have seen women obsess over men/things/food (when on diets) that they can't have but want and chase none the less. Why do we seem to love to torture ourselves? I'm usually pretty good about not getting all "woman-y" as my husband puts it, but last month (month 7 TTC) I broke. I know that's not long compared to many, but I broke like a Dollar store glass. All the work put into TTC got to me and I was doing better this month, reminding myself that it will happen, I need to not stress, we haven't been at this that long, ect ect to try to stay sane. That was until tonight. Apparently I wasn't depressed enough last month so I decided to hurt myself more by Netflixing "Juno" and had totally forgotten about it until tonight. Ugh. I am so glad DH isn't here to see this train wreck. Okay, I don't know what anyone would respond to this, but sometimes you just have to let it out. So...yeah. If you're TTC, don't Netflix movies that will make you more upset, it's so not worth it. That's it for now, night all.

chickpea912 · August 2009

* Hugs*

I don't have a good answer to your question. I've also been in a funk tonight - even though I'm not due for AF until next week, I've somehow convinced myself that I'm not KU and therefore am all down and depressed. It's totally silly, seeing as how this is only our third cycle, but still.

So, sending happy thoughts your way and less upsetting Netflix picks!

Alex17 · August 2009

No paragraphs and that long = I no read.

DaniGirl0517 · August 2009

No, I was in such a funk last month that I just wanted to trigger a good cry (it's hard for me to cry usually) so I could get all the emotional crap out of my system and be done with it so I could move on and go back to being happy. I just needed to let out a little steam. Plus I heard it was a good movie from some friends who apparently have bad taste IMO. Well, steam released I guess and I do feel better it just ended up being weird timing since I had forgotten about it.

Thanks Chickpea, LOL, you're right, I'm gonna have to go through the picks and be sure I didn't do any other stupid choices. I hope that you'll get your BFP despite convincing yourself. Sending baby dust your way!

XXXXX222 · August 2009

I loved Juno! It was a great movie. The end made me cry. But it was a happy cry.

chickpea912 · August 2009

Thanks, Dani!

Some choices you might want to delete: Knocked Up, 9 Months, Baby Mama... Um, I'm sure there are more, but those are off the top of my head!

I know I need to not stress about this and let go of having control, but I've been cramping this entire week. I don't normally cramp this early before AF, but who knows what it means. Hard to not worry for a natural born worrier!

Alex17 · August 2009

kdodge423:

Alex17:
No paragraphs and that long = I no read.

I really didn't either. I just read the first two sentences and last two sentences. Generally the topic sentence is somewhere in those, no?

LOL. True.

DaniGirl0517 · August 2009

Hah, well I know how you feel about the worrying. I really hope this was your month! As for the movies, I have seen those in the past and I hated Knocked Up because I personally don't find pot smoker movies funny, but that's me. It's hard to laugh if you aren't high I guess even though I love Katherine Heigel. And 9 mo was boring when I saw it but that was a long time ago. I do like Baby Mama though, for a while I was watching it like once a week LOL. I don't know how I found that movie comforting but not Juno, semi-similar premise...anyway thanks!

XXXXX222 · August 2009

Kdodge is high on life.

Hugs, not drugs.

christykell · August 2009

Up with hope, down with dope.

DaniGirl0517 · August 2009

kdodge423:
I must have a natural high going on since I do not smoke pot and find those movies hilarious.

According to my 420 friend I can't understand because I haven't "been there" or even smoked a cigarette but whatev to each her own.

zookbride · August 2009

I know this is late coming out, kinda in an insomnia funk right now. So I decided to put my two cents worth in.

Dani and Chickpea: Hang in there girls, the worst thing you can do is have a negative attitude. I was talking to my mom on the phone the other night and she told me there was no point in having a bad attitude so early on in TTC.

You know bad karma and stuff, plus making yourself in anyway feel depressed is not good on the hormones...so I'm sending positive thoughts both of your ways and also lots in lots of baby dust!!

Are you both charting? I just started on fertilityfriend.com and I'm finding it comforting that I am taking charge of something!

DaniGirl0517 · August 2009

Zookbride, thanks for the well wishes and advise. Yep, been doing NFP charting months before I started trying (church mandate sorta), seen the nurse practitioner, am on meds, had about 25 vials of blood drawn/tested, ultasound, blah blah blah. You are right about worry and stressing, I know it's pointless and in fact harmful this early on but I had my last round of tests done about a month ago and since my NP frustratingly went on vacay right after I am waiting to hear the results at next week's appt. So I'm hangin' in there, but I'll try to heed your advise better.

DaniGirl0517 · August 2009

LOL, no I'm 23. Insane to worry? Not really, my mother and both her sisters all for different reasons had to have hysterectomies at or before 35. So that's why were pushing so much. She's doing the bloodwork (I don't even know what all she tested) for a number of things but I agree someone else should have told me but when I called I was told, "Oh she said not to worry, but she wants to go over it with you in person. She'll be back in 4 weeks." Are you effing kidding? Anyway, one more week.

zookbride · August 2009

Danigirl: since you are a newbie like me you may not know this, but you can send messages(just found this out) anyway I sent you a private when you get a chance to check it out!

If you click on your "my friends" tab there should be a tab in that that says messages.

Anyway GL!

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