Irritating comments

ELPB · August 2009

Ok, so I'm a first-time mommy, and I have to say that I am super annoyed at people who have kids saying stupid things to me about how "that'll change once you have the baby" and junk like that. Or things about how I shouldn't plan on getting sleep for the next few years. I get it- things change. Thanks for the obvious tidbits!

Brittni Rimmer · August 2009

I know...I hate it when people say, "Just you wait till that baby is 2...Just you wait!"

Yeah...I know! Thanks though!

jennybeams · August 2009

I hate when my DH says something to his sister about only feeding her kid chicken nuggets three meals a day, or about buying him 5 new toys every week, and her response is "just you wait and see. You'll be doing the same thing."

getnmarried910 · August 2009

I'm not a first time mom, but I'll throw mine in there. I hate when I hear "Wow. You must have your hands full" or "Why would you want three kids so close together?"

rebecca_cross · August 2009

It gets really annoying. You would think that having kids already other moms would be semi sympathetic instead of "ha-ha, now you get to feel it too!"

sasky · August 2009

Ugh, these are the most annoying.

I have to remember how irritating this was, and resist the urge to say anything like this to pg folks after I have mine.

getnmarried910 · August 2009

Leah&Jack:

I agree.

Once your baby is here, you will find the following comments also annoying:

"Well, it's your first so you're going to be extra careful. Wait until you get to your second and you just don't care!"

"Oh, this is your first? Well, you'll act differently with the next one."

I get these two comments for EVERYTHING. Any time I tell MIL or FIL something about DD, or ask people to wash their hands (when she was a newborn), or when I'm "caught" taking pictures.

Oh, good ones. I hate those statements too. So far I have done everythign the same as I did with my first.

EmmieB · August 2009

Leah&Jack:
I agree.
Once your baby is here, you will find the following comments also annoying:
"Well, it's your first so you're going to be extra careful. Wait until you get to your second and you just don't care!"
"Oh, this is your first? Well, you'll act differently with the next one."
I get these two comments for EVERYTHING. Any time I tell MIL or FIL something about DD, or ask people to wash their hands (when she was a newborn), or when I'm "caught" taking pictures.

Irritating!

1st) considering I take 8billion pictures of my CATS...I'm sure that all of my kids are going to have overflowing photo albums. I'm like a Japanese Tourist in the 80s.

I've started giving people selective bits of information. I learned my lesson by telling MIL that we want to Montessori school our kids (and are implementing it in the home from birth - along with some other guidelines from other schools of thought) and got this whole thing about how Montessori only creates monsters.

I have a feeling that when I start getting it from strangers, a whole lot of "Mind Your Own Business" will be coming out of my mouth.

kimberleigh30 · August 2009

I know. It's like Duh, yes I know that things will change once the baby is here. yes I know I will not get lots of sleep. I feel like those people just talk just to talk.

D*sMayBride · August 2009

I never understood this until becoming a parent. I used to babysit for long periods of time 3-4 kids including infants. Had many kids in my family, nieces, nephews, etc. but until it's your own, you really just don't know and I think the other parents are just trying to express that to you. With your first infant, it's life altering change, you have no freedom, you have no sleep, you can barely find time to eat, never mind leave the house or have time to workout or anything for yourself. Then when they get bigger, you really do all those things you said you never would like giving candy so they'll be quiet in the store, or letting them watch tv, etc. I'm not saying it's right to tell new parents stuff like this and people shouldn't be commenting unless you ask them. Just explaining as a parent the life altering change you never see coming no matter how much you think you're prepared, and that's why these people are expressing it to you. It's just converstaion in their eyes.

Just tell them you know and you don't want to hear it! btw, this is my third... and I'm still not prepared for the change!

nealbl · August 2009

OMG I know that is so annoying. I understand my life is going to change i hate those comments.

Jess0823 · August 2009

D*sMayBride:

I never understood this until becoming a parent. I used to babysit for long periods of time 3-4 kids including infants. Had many kids in my family, nieces, nephews, etc. but until it's your own, you really just don't know and I think the other parents are just trying to express that to you. With your first infant, it's life altering change, you have no freedom, you have no sleep, you can barely find time to eat, never mind leave the house or have time to workout or anything for yourself. Then when they get bigger, you really do all those things you said you never would like giving candy so they'll be quiet in the store, or letting them watch tv, etc. I'm not saying it's right to tell new parents stuff like this and people shouldn't be commenting unless you ask them. Just explaining as a parent the life altering change you never see coming no matter how much you think you're prepared, and that's why these people are expressing it to you. It's just converstaion in their eyes.

Just tell them you know and you don't want to hear it! btw, this is my third... and I'm still not prepared for the change!

Totally agree with this. I don't think people are trying to be rude by saying these comments, I just don't think you truly know how things are going to change until baby is here.

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