Am I totally crazy not to have a baby shower?

SandyGirl424 · August 2009

I am having a sudden panic attack and I don't know why.

Will i need more than what people are giving me? Am I dooming myself to spending tons of money???

We are getting A PB crib (and we have to buy mattress)

We are being given/ bought a stroller

We are getting a bouncy seat, jumper and another sitting thing.

Baby bottles are being given to us.

I'm starting to break out in hives.

Is it tacky to register with out having a shower.

Bonzer · August 2009

I never had a baby shower... We managed just fine on our own without all the "must have" crap the stores convince you that your kid will die without

Hulahoop1234 · August 2009

Do you personally not want one or do you just not know of one being planned for you so far? If it is your first you may be disappointing some family member types that love celebrating at showers. The bonus is that they will adore giving you gifts for the LO. I don't think you are crazy for not having one but I guess I don't understand the point of view of not wanting one, so to each their own

Brina Bean · August 2009

Is your question if someone offers to host a shower for you, are you crazy to decline? I guess its a personal decision. I wouldn't decline a shower if one were offered to me since technically that is a gift from the potential hostess. Choosing to create a registry is a completely separate decision IMO. You could always set one up for those who ask for the information I suppose. Since gifts shouldn't be expected, you will want to prepare to buy things on your own. So much of it isn't truly necessary anyway...looks like you already have a lot of it covered.

just_peachy · August 2009

I don't want one at all.

I specified this to everyone close to me.

I'm an older first time mom and just don't feel comfortable with the whole shower thing.

We got a hand-me-down reliable, safe crib and plan on budgeting our dollars for sales and bargain items.

I'm not a mom that gets swayed by all the gizmos and gadgets and my home is pretty small so less really is more in my case.

Good Luck!

AndromedA1 · August 2009

You are not alone! I don't want one either. We have NO storage space and have also decided to cut costs by budgeting $ for sale/bargain and borrowing items too! However, one friend of mine said, hmmm no shower, how about a diaper drive or coupons to the local food store. That I could agree to!

HisKathy · August 2009

Registries are nice to have because it helps you get organized on what you need and want and you can get a completion coupon from the store to buy things off your registry near your due date.

If no one has offered to host a shower for you there's not much you can do about it so no point in worrying whether or not you have one.

dawneo · August 2009

I don't want a baby shower either. I made this clear when I announced my pg. We got married just over a year ago and I had 4 wedding showers, as well as all the gifts from my wedding. I don't want people spending more money on me/my baby especially since I have moved away since and rarely see extended family and friends anymore.

I did choose to register. I never thought about it being tacky. Close relatives and friends will be buying gifts even though there is no shower and I know I appreciate registrys when buying for other people.

I have also been given many hand-me-downs so our only "big" purchases were a jogging stroller (my preferance), crib and mattress (bought used crib - it came with a mattress but we are going to buy new), car seat (have a hand-me-down one but would feel safer with a new one) and a high chair. I have been watching for used/garage sale items for the smaller things and flyers/sales for the things that I don't want to purchase used and taking things off my registry when I find them. So far this has worked well and I don't feel like I am spending a lot of money becuase I am picking up a few things each week.

Hulahoop1234 · August 2009

Just a suggestion because we have a family that just plain loves a good party! Maybe after your LO is here you could invite everyone for a meet the baby party and just specify "no gifts, please". I think those types of things can also help you avoid having a constant stream of people in and out of your house!

I agree that it is not tacky at all to register. It will help keep your neccessity list organized.

Bronxgirl73 · August 2009

why would it be tacky to register??

rcsbride · August 2009

I don't think you are crazy. It looks like you have the basics and that is what you need. I think you can still register. It won't be tacky and even if you don't have a shower people may still get you stuff when the baby arrives.

Kingston54 · August 2009

I don't think it's tacky to register if you're not having a shower. I'd look at it as a way for you and your DH to keep track of what you need.

I am really greatful that we are having a baby shower because it is really going to help us get the things we need for the baby. We'll buy the nursery furniture/chair and bedding on our own, and then we hope to get most of the rest of the stuff from the shower. Huge help!

Future*Mrs*Wilson · August 2009

I'm not having a shower. DH and I sat down and made a list of everything we need and then set a budget. We have a gently used crib, bouncer, stroller, car seat and clothing items. My parents have been very helpful and so have so of my friends that have kids. You will be fine and remember you still have time so spread out big purchases.

MrsRebecca · August 2009

No, you're not crazy. Showers are not mandatory and not everyone has one.

I do think registering for gifts without having a shower is tacky though. When people go to a shower they expect to bring a gift from a registry (as that's the point). If you're going to register but not have a shower, how are you going to tell people without sounding greedy?

It's like saying you don't want to celebrate with everyone, you just want gifts.

KateLouise · August 2009

I'm in NZ and showers are not a huge part of our culture although some people do have them.

I'm relaly uncomfortable with the concept of them. If people want to give me a gift , great and if not, great.

I like the idea of having a girls lunch or something just to catch up with people before the birth...but the idea of the point of it being to give me gifts makes me feel a bit ick.

So if you don't want one then fine I say fine. people who want to give you a gift will still do so.

Bianca42 · August 2009

This is my second, so I'm not having a shower...but I did start a registry. I'm using it as more of a place to keep track of what I need to buy this time around. (Right now, there are crib sheets, changing pad and changing pad covers.) As I think of things that I'll need, I'm adding them to the list.

I won't be giving out the registry info...but if someone is dying to give me a gift and seeks it out on their own I wouldn't be upset. Wink

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