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Gift question

vmgetlvmgetl
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My cousin and his wife just had twins.  They live out of state.  They invited us to the babies Baptism.  I have already spent twice as much as normal since they had twins on the shower present- $200- on top of hotel/airfare/car rental, ect to go to the shower which my aunt (cousins mom) was adamant about everyone being there-whe threw it in MAryland when we all live in Chicago...  How much is enough to give the boys for a Baptism gift?  I am not flying out again because I personally do not have another extra $700 between airfare/car rental/ and hotel stay along with gifts to spend on her kids when I have my own coming soon that I need to save for.  When I told my cousins wife we wouldn't be attending, she was like well we would come for your kids....which is such b.s. because they didn't even come to our wedding- and money isn't an object for them.  Anyways, how much would you give as a baptism present?  
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Re: Gift question

  • Nicole731Nicole731 member
    $20-30 per kid, that's my standard for any kind of gift for kids.
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  • Brittni RimmerBrittni Rimmer

    Honestly...I never got baptism gifts.

    I think just sending a nice card with a congratulations would suffice

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  • Mereou12Mereou12 member

    Something that's about $25 or so. I don't see baptisms as big gift-giving events. A thoughtful card is always appreciated, too.

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  • BinksMomma3016BinksMomma3016 member
    Just dont send cash, if youre unsure. Send a memento instead, like a silver cross for each, maybe something with an engraving or two little silver necklaces with crosses on them...... That way you send a nice gift and they wont know exactally how much you spent. They cant be mad you dont want to travel...thats stupid
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  • courtney_lynnecourtney_lynne
    I would send something engraved. Things remembered has a $10 off coupon floating around the internet, I think i saw it posted on goodorfreedeals.com That might help some. Man when I had my son my SIL made him a blanket, and I thought it was the most wonderful gift (she also lives about an hour from me and didn't come to my shower, but they couldn't afford the gas)  They sound greedy to me.
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  • LadyHollywoodLadyHollywood member
    I gave $100 to each child's baptism I have gone to.  That seems to be the norm for my friends and family to give.
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  • Carmie714Carmie714 member
    50 dollars per child
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  • Hulahoop1234Hulahoop1234

    I would send a non-monetary gift so they do not know what you spent.  Something like this stuff at things remembered? 

     https://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Listing_10001_9951__4439_-1_3137_?occId=10203

    In this economy I really can't stand people who don't understand that you don't have $1000 to drop here and there. 

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  • GraceOMallyGraceOMally

    IMO, with the exception of weddings, religious ceremonies are not really gift giving occations.  I could see giving a card, a board book with a Bible story, crosses or other token items but that is it.

    It sounds to me that you have already celebrated the twins by attending their shower and it seems like a no brainer that you would have to pick one or the other and not both.

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