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*adamswife*

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imageadamwife:

Sigh.

I have this fight with my mother all.the.time.

I made her take back 90% of what she bought for Christmas.  This was after I told her that I didn't want a bunch of stuff.

I finally told her that if she continues to buy all those toys I will be boxing them up and taking them to Goodwill.  That seemed to settle her down a bit.

I am trying to understand this. You made your mother take back what she bought her grandchild for xmas? Then you also told her you would box the toys up and take them to Goodwill if she kept doing so? To me that sounds very ungrateful.

Grandparents are not entitled to do anything, they do it out of love. I would never tell my MIL or anyone this. If I didn't like something I would say "thank you" then return it myself. I would never ask the giver to return a gift, that is just rude.

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  • phishphoodphishphood
    I think you may mean "obligated" rather than "entitled".
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  • adamwifeadamwife

    Story:

    My mother came over two weeks before Christmas with an insane amount of toys.  When I asked her why she bought them a bunch of stuff she said she just felt like spoiling them.  So, I said to her, that is fine, but please do not buy them any more toys for Christmas.  We have enough already and I don't have room to store them.

    Two weeks later she calls me and starts rattling off everything she had bought the boys for Christmas, saying she just wanted to check to see if we already had those toys.  It was ridiculous - at least 20 gifts per child. 

    I kindly reminded her about our conversation two weeks before and that I would prefer that she take the toys back and limit the gifts to something reasonable.  She did.

    After that I told her that she can do what she wants for the boys, but we try very hard not to "spoil" our children with too many things.  We go through their toys every few months and box up extras they don't need to take to Goodwill.  I told her that all of the stuff she is buying will probably just end up going to Goodwill.  I think she got the point.

    I am fine with grandparents spoiling grandchildren to an extent, but when it goes against the parents' beliefs, I have a problem.  DH and I don't buy a lot of gifts for our children for specific reasons.  We have shared those reasons with our parents.  His parents understand and respect our wishes, my parents feel the need to buy presents all.the.time. and disrespect our wishes.  If they want to buy toys to keep at their house and spoil the kids with while they are there - I am fine with it.  I just don't need a bunch of junk and clutter in my house.

    Call it rude, but it was rude of her not to listen to me when I asked her kindly to do something.  My kids, my rules.

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