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Not looking forward to the baby bump?
I feel like I am the only one not looking forward to the baby bump. I like the way I look and really have no excitement about showing. Is there anyone else who is not loving the thought of showing and all the other body changes of pregnancy?
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Re: Not looking forward to the baby bump?
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Was really excited with DS, but this time around I'm thinking that I already look 4 months pg (at least compared to when I was pg with DS...I was small) so what the HECK will I look like at 4 months this time around???
Ahhhhhh, vanity.
Agree.
TTC #1 since 2007. Dx: Unexplained infertility. 4 IUIs in 2008 = BFN. IVF #1 07/09. DD #1 born April 2010 (40w5d).
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I don't think it is inevitable, pregnancy or not. I know it is inevitable with pregnancy, but I don't agree with the "or not." You don't get a bump when you aren't pregnant; getting fat is not inevitable if you aren't pregnant.
For the record, baby bump does not = fat.
I was talking about body changes in general, but I guess I should have been more specific.
ummmm yeah, there no comparing a baby bump and getting fat ??
As we are going to (inevitably) gain weight it is good to have the bump to show for it!
I am confident you will change your attitude once you start gaining!
This is where I'm giving you the side-eye. You're not "getting fat" when you're pregnant. I think you've got some weight issues you need to get over.
Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)
this!!! bring on the bumpage!!
This. Exactly.
Eh, it's ok to be stressed about it. you'll get used to it.
And, please, just because some people have had losses and/or hard time conceiving doesn't mean that everyone else has to be 100% excited about everything in pregnancy. That just doesn't make sense.
I'm not saying that she or anyone else needs to be 100% excited about everything in pregnancy. I have had very rough pregnancies and I'm sure that I had my moments of complaining or wishing that I would feel better. But, there are certain things, like a baby bump that are inevitable. You know when you are trying to get pregnant that one certainty in pregnancy is that you will have a bump. I'm just saying that part should certainly be embraced, it's a beautiful thing.
I am for sure looking forward to the bump. Not just for reality to set in but because that means I will have told my family and friends. Hoping to wait at least to week 12 (though I probably won't be showing yet).
I like how I look right now, too. I would have freaked out about the thought of baby bump weight four or so years ago because I was totally inactive. I've since changed that and feel confident I'll be able to shed my post-baby weight and even look better than I do now. I've seen many women do it. It's not genes. And I agree, baby bump is not fat. Although I anticipate putting on a few pounds on my hips and butt ove the next few months...but who knows, maybe not!
I'm 4 weeks, 2 days and this evening I ran 7.5 miles! Never thought I would be able to do that, though not sure how much longer that will continue! Ha!
really? bc on the miscarriage board you said this post pissed you off and was ignorant.
I'm not trying to start something, but just saying everyone doesn't have to embrace everything about pregnancy (or parenting).
iF YOU DON'T WANT A BUMP..YOU SHOULDN'T OF GOTTEN PREGNANT..
IM ABOUT 13 WEEKS AND I CANT WAIT FOR MY BUMP...
yes, I did say that because it does piss me off. Like I said, when you are trying to get pregnant and become pregnant one thing that in known for sure is that you are going to have a baby bump and probably gain weight. I was not trying to be disrespectful to OP, I'm just telling her to embrace it. I'm guessing that you have never had a loss and don't know what it feels like to no longer have that bump that some people seem to be worried about. Then having to explain to everyone around you where that bump went. It's heartbreaking and no one should have to endure it. So, again, my opinion is that it should be embraced, it's a known part of pregnancy.
Whoa, some of y'all are being kind of harsh. I can see where she's coming from. I had a really hard 1st pregnancy. I gained 80 pounds, and I developed pre-eclampsia, which I will more than likely develop again. I was on bed rest for the last month. It took me 4 years to grow the balls to get pregnant again and deal with these things.
Some women LOVE being pregnant. I'm the opposite. I would love to close my eyes and have the doctor hand me my baby and skip the pregnancy process. That doesn't mean I don't want the baby I'm carrying, and I don't think the poster means that either.
I don't feel ready for a bump. I'm ok with being pregnant, but this whole bloat/crazy body changes thing has got me down. My breasts are huge and my belly looks like I drink tons of beer while eating at McDonalds. I wasn't ready for that, as selfish as it sounds. I know some people are dying to get pregnant and I should count my lucky stars, but it's just a time of adjustment for me and I sometimes don't feel ready for the physical evidence of my pregnancy.?
Well put.?
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I agree, she has a right to her feelings of not desiring a bump! The body change, especially if you have spent years trying to get or keep it a certain way, is a little overwhelming. I personally can't wait to "show" but there are other things about this pregnancy that totally freak me out, (job, school, less alone time with hubby).
um, i think the poster-- you know, the one who had multiple losses and would love to have her baby bump back-- was trying to offer a diferent perspective. does the OP HAVE to be 100% excited about everything in pregnancy? no, of course not. but she also has the ability to look at weight gain as a natural part of a healthy pregnancy, and that is something to be thankful for.
but hey, what do i know. i'm one of "some people" who have had a loss, and i think it is wise to consider a healthy pregnancy a blessing-- even if it does mean gaining some weight.
Agree! I mean, pushing a 6 or more pound person out of an area that has never previously stretched that far, OR being sliced open is an inevitable part of pregnancy, but that does not mean that it does not freak me out!!!
In situations like this I guess I consider myself fortunate. I was already a fatass before getting pregnant, I have horrible stretchmarks, and I pretty much hate almost every physical aspect about myself.
This baby will more than likely make me love my body. Even if I don't end up loving it, I know my feelings won't be any more negative than they were pre-pregnancy.
My husband, who thinks I'm hotter than any supermodel, made the comment that pregnancy is "shaping" me. Can't argue with that.
I'd like to say this again, because I think it's worth repeating:
No one was saying that the OP had to be excited about body changes, or had to be excited about the whole pregnancy "thing". I personally had a huge problem when she implied that pregnant women (and their bump) are fat.
Pregnant women are NOT fat.
Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)