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i hate my mother in law
I hate her. She hates me. Its very mutual. I feel bad for her because she still hasnt gotten over her son marrying me and now that were expecting she is treating it like a tragedy. She is stressing me out because she is upsetting DH. Meanwhile, I couldn't care care less what she has to say about anything. I was told today to please refrain from announcing our pregnancy because she hasnt found a way to tell FIL yet. Oh, and she said she can't understand why my parents are happy about this. Seriously? ARRRGH she can suck it. Vent Over.
By the way, I kissed his whole familys ass for two years and when they STILL didnt like me after that I gave up. Its not like I didnt try.
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Re: i hate my mother in law
What a b!tch! I can't stand my MIL, also. There's a reason I'm almost 13 weeks, and she doesn't even know about this pregnancy yet yet. As soon as she knows, she'll want to take this baby as her own, and I know she'll be belittling and condescending.
Geez! Are you freaking kidding me?
I mean, I thought it was rude when people asked, "was it planned" or "Twins? Guess you guys got fertility treatment, huh? What was wrong?"
But that's just unforgiveable. I hope DH is still able to fully celebrate this wonderful news.
I hate my MIL also and she is not a fan of me and has said that before. Now though she's all "excited" about the baby. I hope she realizes this baby is a part of me the woman she never wanted with her son.
I say you ignore her, don't talk to her, announce away screw her! and I know personally I would be telling my DH he needs to stick up for me if I were you.
She's a peach! At least you've given up letting her attitude really get to you. My MIL is a pain too. She's never happy unless all attention is on her, which it often is but usually negative because she makes such a fool of herself. I don't want to tell her about our pregnancy either because she goes around telling everyone she's such a great grandma to our nephews & complains that her sons never bring them over enough to see her. Again looking for attention. She has 2 young sons from her 2nd marriage & treats them horribly, plus her house is very uncleanly, so I sure don't want to hand my child over to her either. I'm just dreading it!
Sucks for you. Probably sucks worse for your DH. That's such a miserable situation, I'm sorry.
With the holding off on the news until she can grow balls enough to tell your FIL, I'd either have your DH call him directly, or have him give her a week ultimatum. If she hasn't "figured it out" by then, announce your news. It's not like she didn't have warning.
I don't get this. At all. None of it makes any sense to me. I can't see how a mother would HATE who her son chooses to love, unless of course the woman is insane, which none of you seem to be!
It has been difficult with my MIL also. I moved from FL (where my family is) to Boston (where my fiance is from) because she agreed she would watch my daughter (also her grand daughter) daily while we worked. She has since come up with excuses for not taking care of my daughter leaving us stranded without child care most of the time. She tries to be nice to my face, but bad mouth's me and her son to the rest of her family. It's a horrible situation when someone is as two faced as she is.
I hace since stopped trying to play nice and just say what ever I feel to her. At first, I did not want to be disrespectful to my fiance's mother. At this point, I DO NOT CARE!! (I realize that this woman does not provide for my family, why should I give a damn?)
It really blows me anyway, knowing that someone could really be angry about bringing a child into the world! What more could a MIL ask for from a DIL, then to have a precious little one to spoil?
My soon to be-MIL really isn't in the picture and hasn't been for about the last 15 years. Which sucks...I say this because its sad that baby won't know Grandma. I know it effects my Honey and this makes me very sad!
After trying to help the situation a couple times, I've learned that I just need to stop letting others take my energy...meaning,"Who gives a ***?" I have come to the conclusion that no matter what I say or do some people are just real **s**les!
So, you either jump on my wagon and have a great time with me and baby or don't. They are the ones that are going to make the choice and if they choose not to be involved don't let it get to you! That's exactly what the MIL wants...to cause havic for you at this time when all it should be is cotton candy and ice cream cones.
Remember, Son remains son until he gets a wife and daughter remains daughter for ever. You take that however you want!
You are a better person than me I would have responded with well too bad my kids won't know you LOL Maybe she will come around.