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Stay At Home Moms, Help...

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I was a SATM with my first child until she was about 9 months old. I decided to go back to work because I was missing the interaction with adults. Of course, once I went bad I missed being with her. I am still working and due with my second child. I have moved also and now am 2 hours from family and friends. I wantto stay at home with my children now but am worried about not having any adult time. I am wondering if antone else has gone through this and how you dealt with it. Also if the best thing to do would be join a mommy and me group? I have never done those and am not sure if you really make friends in them or not. I dont want my little one in daycare but I also think it is important to have time with adults and their children. Thanks for the help.

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  • angie212angie212 member

    I would definitely join a mommy and me group if you don't have friends/family close by.  I am not a SAHM now, but I am a teacher, so I SAH in the summers.  I will be a SAHM after the new baby comes.

    You might also want to post on the SAHM board; they have a lot of good ideas for keeping your child (and yourself) stimulated while staying at home.

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  • Heather1979Heather1979 member

    I'm planning on being a SAHM once LO arrives.

    But I have family in the area, 2 retired family members I'm close to, and I plan on teaching a course or two at the community college (we're talking about 6 hours a week's worth of work) in the spring or summer semester of next year...

    Is there something you could do on an extremely part time basis? Could you work part time?

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  • titicoletiticole
    meetup.com is a good place to go and I know someone that did not have a meet up so she started one and it got so big because people wanted it so much.  They are out there. 
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  • iowagirl73iowagirl73 member

    I'm in that situation now - sort of.  SAHM, want desperately to go back to work for adult interaction but due in Nov. and will stay home a few months with baby #2 so no need to really look for a job right now, and no real friends where I live (just moved to the area).

    While I haven't joined a mom group yet, it is because there are not any here for me to join.  If you don't have friends and family close by but there ARE groups out there then I say go for it.  I would assume that if you are a regular at the group(s), then you will become friends with the other regulars.  Maybe in the beginning just start going to a park on a regular basis and see if you recognize the same people there and just strike up a conversation some day.

    I have my son in part time day care so he can get interaction with other kids, plus it gives me some "me" time to do what I want (clean the house, nap if needed, run errands, get a pedicure, etc.).

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  • jacobandcrystaljacobandcrystal member

    I also started a group on meetup.com (when we were living in another state).  It was a great way to meet other moms and kids and also to get to know the area.  It was nice to use some organizational skills in planning it too.

    If you have a supportive hubby or SO, it helps if he will watch the kids or take them out for a couple hours at a time so that you can either go have "you" time out of the house, or just relax at home.

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  • Victoria808Victoria808
    Our hospital runs a group for 0-6 month olds... attending that- and going to lunch afterward- was the best decision that I made. Now that DD is 13.5 months old, those girls are my 3x/week friends :)
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  • xnbridexnbride member

    I met some nice ladies on meetup.com too. I am also in a women's bible study that meets once  a week.  I just like hanging out with my hubby mostly.  He gives me alot of adult stimulation Wink He works 4 ten hour days so he is off Friday, Saturday and Sunday and then we always have lunch together on Tuesday afternoons. It helps the weeks to go by faster.

     

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  • Blissful MeBlissful Me member
    I've been a stay at home mommy for 2 1/2 years now and I never feel like I don't have adult interaction. I am in bible study weekly, we're very involved in our church, and I have regular monthly girl's nights or breakfasts. I tried the mommy and me group but the mom's were a bit too cliquey for me. I didn't feel comfortable there. I think the idea of being a stay at home mom automatically makes people assume you'll be stuck at home in babyland all day but as long as you make a choice to get out and do things with your child and on your own you won't feel like that.?
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