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MBandBud · August 2009

I'm at a loss for words right now. I don't want to say I am hopeless, but if ever I've been close, now is it. Me, 38, DH, 42. TTC for 2 years. PG once naturally about 2 years ago that ended in blighted ovum. We both don't want to destroy embyos, so we agree to go the IVF route if we can limit the number we fertilized. When we met with RE that magic number was 6, with realization that it may mean no success. We reviewed all the materials tonight and DH doesn't want to chance possibly having to go back and get the FE so he only truly feels comfortable with fertilizing 2 eggs. He can't stand risking possibly ending up with 4 kids; I can't stand possibly ending up with none. I can't believe I'm about to begin this journey with these odds, looking at all those meds in my closet and plotting out the next 6 weeks. Speechless.

Me&Mr.T · August 2009

Good luck! I hope this works!

kimarino13 · August 2009

I am sorry. I hope you guys can work out a compromise, and if not, my fingers are crossed that 2 are all you need.

Hugs.

MBandBud · August 2009

Skye412:
Oh - I know how hard all of this is to decide. DH and I had to do a lot of talking to come to a number we both felt comfortable with, too. Do you think talking to your RE again might help? Perhaps he can share with you what others in your situation have done - and talk about the likelihood of different scenarios.
Also, have you considered minimal stim IVF? From what I've read, the thinking is that you stim for only a few, but better quality eggs. So, if you stimmed and got 3 good quality eggs and inseminated 2 - you might have a great shot at getting quality embryos. I hope you're able to come up with a compromise that works for you both.

I'm so glad you were on and appreciate your reply. I am glad you mentioned the minimal stim IVF...the thought crossed my mind but without you mentioning it I may have not inquired. I go tomorrow for my mock transfer and will ask then. Thanks again.

terraflora · August 2009

What a tough situation you are in, I really feel for you. I just wanted to say that it takes a lot of strength to stick to you own personal morals even when it can be so difficult and painful to do so. I hope that you and DH can reach agreement on it. All the best to you for that miracle baby.

waitingforbaby#2 · August 2009

I'm sorry you are going through this

(hugs)

alwyzbsy · August 2009

I'm sorry. I hope that you can come to a decision together and that you will end up with your healthy baby from the cycle.

Dragonfly1226 · August 2009

I'm so sorry. I really hope you guys can come to some sort of compromise. If you do decide on two, I hope those two are little rock stars! Maybe they will be all you need. (((((hugs)))))

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