Would you consider maybe a no in regards to RSVPs?

Tamara Stumph · August 2009

I've received some yes's and some no's, but I've also received maybes as RSVPs to my baby shower. Would you count them as yes's or no's?

nicolebuchalla · August 2009

I would be irritated. LOL

I would try to touch base with those people closer to the date, to see if they have a better idea of yes/no. But for now, I would err on the side of caution and say yes.

SmallandNeedy · August 2009

Count them as yeses and follow up a week before the shower for their definite answer.

MissyC979 · August 2009

I would follow up with those people to find out when they would know whether they would be attending. Food-wise, I'd probably plan for about half of them to actually attend.

anderst · August 2009

count them as 1/2. Or get back to them closer to the date to see if they are planning on coming or not.

SmallandNeedy · August 2009

When is your shower? Is it a little early to be getting back RSVPs?

piper09 · August 2009

I would consider a maybe a yes, since you would need to plan accordingly for food, etc...

IMO, saying maybe is kind of rude, since it makes it that much more difficult to plan. They should just give you a definitive reply.

LindsE143 · August 2009

I would probably count them as "no's" for right now, but follow up closer to the date and see if that changes to make sure you have enough food!

Liss_37 · August 2009

As a pp said, I would also be irritated. I would consider a maybe as a very rude answer. you send out invites in advance so you can properly prepare. people wouldn't send a maybe on a wedding invitation so why would they think it's okay for a baby shower. I would contact them and ask them to please give you an answer either way.

mooeta · August 2009

I would could them as a 1/2 in terms of food depending on if it is catered or not, just to be on the safe side.

krissyh21 · August 2009

How far away is your shower? A maybe is annoying, especially if you did not sent them out months in advance. A person should be able to give a definite answer with a couple of weeks to go on the calender.

Tamara Stumph · August 2009

SmallandNeedy:
When is your shower? Is it a little early to be getting back RSVPs?

September 12th. I'm having it early because it's in Michigan and I'm driving (in order to bring gifts back) and I don't really want to drive 12 hours when I'm 30+ weeks. I'm also having it be a baby shower/bbq so men will show up. I want to see all of my friends that I don't get to see very often. It's 5 weeks notice, but I just want everyone to know I'll be around that weekend.

jdouglas84 · August 2009

I would agree with the pp's in following up with the person about a week before the shower. In trying to figure out how much food or space to have, I would count them as a yes for now.

tklmechris98 · August 2009

My advice....I would count them as no's when it comes to the place if you have to guarantee a headcount. This way if they do all become no's and you are below your count you know ahead of time if you need to find people to fill up the spots. I would rather invite people than the money go to waste. But definitely call them at least 2 weeks before you need to know and if they don't give you answers then count them as no's. ?When they show up and have #1 no where to sit and #2 no food to eat then that's their problem. I had to go through this with my wedding. ?I got to a point where I didn't care and if they showed up and had no where to sit, it wasn't my problem anymore. That's what they got for being rude. But look at it this way, at least they gave you half and answer. Some people never even responded to my wedding and when I called them they were like "oooh yeaahhh... no we can't come."

NiniJ55 · August 2009

nicolebuchalla:

I would be irritated. LOL

I would try to touch base with those people closer to the date, to see if they have a better idea of yes/no. But for now, I would err on the side of caution and say yes.

I would be irritated with a "maybe" as well... it's either you can make it or not. I agree with PP and try to touch bases with these people at a later date to get an answer.

barefootbride2008 · August 2009

First of all, I feel your pain. There are people who have not RSVPed to our shower and have been individually emailed 3 times in addition to receiving an invitation. It's SO unbelievably rude, I do not understand it.

As for whether to count them or not, it would really depend mostly on how food is being paid for at the shower. For my shower, it will be buffet style food and if we include people in the count, we have to pay for them, so I am definitely not counting the maybes. There is always so much food at these events that I am not concerned we will run out if a couple extra people show up. If we had to pay per plate and it was a more formal event, I might be more likely to count them.

Harms80 · August 2009

Ooooo I'm feelin snarky today. Since they can't plan for you, you shouldn't plan for them.... Make a stack of pb&j sandwiches in the fridge and if they show up, direct them to those. And, they can sit on the floor if you're counting chairs. Just kidding. I talk tough but I would probably consider them a yes for preparations and just deal with any leftovers/extra gfits. Wink

justrachet · August 2009

In my early planning I count them as yeses, unless they are more than 10% or so of the invitees, then I count half of them as yeses. Usually they will give a more firm answer before the actual event, but they just didn't know for sure as early as the RSVP date whether they'd actually be free. If they never can say for sure, I consider them a no, and so far, that has always been correct.

chrystaleigh · August 2009

That's really annoying. I would count them as a no.

JulieandBen · August 2009

Did you send them as an Evite? That's the only way I can think to explain why someone would RSVP maybe to anything. How annoying. I would count them as a no.

sjp · August 2009

the hostess should call the Maybes about a week before to confirm either way

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