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Question about profile book

*Erin&Mike**Erin&Mike*
in Adoption

Ok...our homestudy is complete and approved and we are about to mail off our profile books.  Before we print them though I wanted an opinion. 

Some agencies we visited with said that they didn't like the term "birth mother" or "birth parents."

So what "term" did you use if neither one of the above?

TIA!

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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member
    expectant mom/parent
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  • rottimomrottimom
    We used Birthfamily. I have also seen the very neutral Dear Friend
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  • jewele803jewele803
    We just opened our w/ a simple Hello and didn't get into BM or BP...it worked for us:)
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  • PSU-NCBridePSU-NCBride
    Ditto Jewel. We just opened with a Hi! It also eliminated the issue of what if the BF is reading the books, too. We didn't want to alienate him.?
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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    we used birth mother. Now i think we would use expectant mother.
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • LadyRed7LadyRed7
    We just have simple 'hello' as well.
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  • Mom's Getting MarriedMom's Getting Married

    We also just used hello for the same reasons listed. It's avoids the confusion and also doesn't alienate the birth dad, or imply any assumptions.

     

    Erica

     

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  • MrsSept05wedMrsSept05wed
    We used "Hello!" as well. My first version had "birthparents" but technically they're not a birth anything until they give birth, so... I tossed around "expectant parents" and it just seemed like such a mouthful. "Hello!" works for us (hopefully it will, anyway).
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  • Temp206787500007404Temp206787500007404

    We used Birthparents, and our Payton's mom remarked that she liked that term better than Expectant mother or parents that she saw in some other profiles because in her opinion she wasn't expecting anything other than giving birth.

    I think no matter what direction you go, there's a chance someone won't like it.  And we didn't feel comfortable just saying "hi" or "hello."  Just go with your gut and follow any rules your agency has!

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