To babymoon or not to babymoon?

RickeyandDani · July 2009

Ok so our anniversary is the end of August, and DH will finally get to take some leave in September if he chooses to. After his last deployment we never took a vacation.

I found the PERFECT babymoon/anniversary idea for us. Only thing is I feel almost guilty like we should just save the money for the baby. We'd be spending more money then we ever do from our savings (not draining it or anything). Just don't want to feel guilty! Keep in mind I don't spend money normally....I never shop or buy fancy stuff. I just don't care about that. So any spending that isn't bills I feel guilty.

what do you all think?

Zip1209 · July 2009

Never forget that the greatest thing for that little baby is having two parents who are connected, loving and communicate well. Most couples (read: ME and my husband) need some time away for just us every once in a while. If it's a good thing for your marriage, it's a GREAT thing for the baby. So don't think of it as cheating the baby out of something you might buy for him or her; think of it as an investment for your baby!

TeamRey · July 2009

Zip1209:
Never forget that the greatest thing for that little baby is having two parents who are connected, loving and communicate well. Most couples (read: ME and my husband) need some time away for just us every once in a while. If it's a good thing for your marriage, it's a GREAT thing for the baby. So don't think of it as cheating the baby out of something you might buy for him or her; think of it as an investment for your baby!

I totally agree with this. It will be a nice relaxing time for you too and that is great to have in pregnancy. I saw go for it! It may be a long time before you get to take a trip away just the two of you for a while.

aggielauren · July 2009

Zip1209:
Never forget that the greatest thing for that little baby is having two parents who are connected, loving and communicate well. Most couples (read: ME and my husband) need some time away for just us every once in a while. If it's a good thing for your marriage, it's a GREAT thing for the baby. So don't think of it as cheating the baby out of something you might buy for him or her; think of it as an investment for your baby!

This. I totally agree.

kensbride08 · July 2009

DH and I went to Maui for a week and it was wonderful. I would totally recommend it if you can. Its nice to get away just the 2 of you one last time before all the craziness.

Pennylane824 · July 2009

If you can afford it, do it. You will be so happy for that time with DH. We took one and it was so fantastic to just be together away from reality. I loved every minute of it.

jdlocke · July 2009

I know what you mean...me and DH are going to go to michigan sometime (hopefully when it's still warm).

sgrl · July 2009

Yes, you should. We went on vacation last month and it was wonderful.

Desmond&MollyJones · July 2009

Do it :-)

Jenice32 · July 2009

Go for it. Who know's when the perfect vacation will come around again? We're going to spend a long weekend in Napa and visiting some good friends in a couple of months and I can't wait!

TarheelsInNJ · July 2009

I'm having this same dilemma. DH is in law school, so we've only taken one vacation in the last few years (we're big on travel usually!). We both have a 4-day weekend on Labor Day, so I wanted to take a little trip... but now I'm wondering if it's better to just save the money and do more of a "staycation."

If you feel financially able to take the trip though, I totally would. You and DH need time to connect, and you know that once the baby comes everything will be different! I'd go for it in your case. If you feel really guilty, you could scale back a bit and do a smaller trip, because you won't enjoy it if you're stressed.

tsoyster · July 2009

Obviously, don't break the bank, but I think a babymoon is totally worth it. DH and I went to Puerto Rico last month, realizing that this would be the last time we would have the chance for such a big vacation. IT WAS WONDERFUL!! Even if you don't take a big trip, even just a three night stay in a little b&b would be worth it.

KimberlyJean · July 2009

My DH and I are spending an overnight babymoon at a swanky spa in October (about a month and half before I'm due). We got it as a wedding gift last October and it's the only reason we get to do a babymoon, we couldn't afford it otherwise.

If you can afford it, go for it. Pregnancy and all the impending changes can often create stress and tension on couples (not to mention the everyday stuff like work, family life, etc.), so to get away and re-connect with each other is not a waste at all - like pp said it's and "investment". Happy parents = happy baby. Smile

Vuja_de · July 2009

well, we are pretty strapped for cash but we also want to have a small weekend away this fall before the baby comes, so we will probably drive to Vermont and stay at our favorite bed & breakfast (that welcomes our dog) for a couple of nights.

jenny1980 · July 2009

In my mind, it would depend on what you mean by "not draining your savings." Can you save up separately for the vacay without taking any from savings? If you do borrow from savings, do you have plenty left?

megeliza31 · July 2009

I would definitely do something even if it's nothing extravagent like others have said. We are taking our very postponed honeymoon which has now also become our babymoon in the next few weeks. My husband returned from his second deployment about 13 weeks ago and I really think that all military couples need that time to reconnect, baby or no baby.

If you are set on this PERFECT trip and can make it work go for it, if not maybe look into something a little cheaper yet just as good that will make you not feel guilty afterward.

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