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3rd Trimester
Birth Plans are for Hippies.
My doctor literally said that to me at this morning's appointment. Discuss.
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Re: Birth Plans are for Hippies.
i asked my doctor about a birth plan and she said having one is "asking for something to go wrong during delivery"
seriously?
I never had one, and didnt really think it was necessary because the doctors are going to do what they need to do to keep you and your baby safe. But I dont think any doctor should be saying that. Doesnt seem right to me.
If I could write a birth plan it would say- I would like a fast, easy, painless labor. I mean I had an idea of I wanted and didnt want, but a plan didnt seem necessary to me. I know others swear by them though.
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Agreed.
::wanders back to 2nd tri::
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HAHAHA.
This.
See, that's how I got KU in the first place. LOL
LOL. So you know this guy, do you?
Oh, you KNOW you're going to get the hair pulling with that one!! LOL
Ok, personally, if my OB said that I would get a different OB.
Birth plans are the way of the modern, informed woman, a way for her to work with her Doctor and for both of them to have a happy healthy birth and baby. Sure, we all need to hold our "plans" loosely, but that's why being prepared with a plan is SO important: if "a" happens you can do this, but what if "b" happens? do you know what you want to do? It's good to consider all options and be open and informed.
oh no. My doc says silly things from time to time. I take it all in as jokes because no matter what he says I have an opinion and if I want a birth plan WHOOP there it is
Yeah, I'm guessing you're one of those "hook me up in the parking lot," "whatever my doc says must be the best" type of birthers. More power to you. For those of us who aren't, and plan to give birth in a hospital, a birth "plan" (even if it's not written) is pretty much a necessity.
Wow, make your own birth plan and give it to the nurses in the hospital. They will be with you most of your labor anyways.
Modern hippies are different than the traditional ones (went to school at a Hippie College, so...) but still...
I think that a lot of the more micro managing stuff is a bit hippie-ish according to my own views of childbirth and child rearing, but then I'm not an OB who should very well be trained to bite my tongue when I disagree with people.
You should be able to voice that opinion (I did, when I was encouraged to write one out) but your OB has no reason and no excuse for doing so.
IMO birth plans are more common for first-time parents. From experience, after you go through labor & delivery you realize just how crazy the thought of planning anything really is. But, I think it is something everyone has to experience for themselves to really understand. And, if it makes a first-time parent feel more comfortable and in control, then what is the harm? Everyone knows that in the end, they will do what they need to do to get the baby delivered and to make sure mom and baby are healthy.
My doctor would have just said okay and rolled her eyes when she left the room.
The hospital I'm delivering at requests that you have one with your pre-admission paperwork, your OB's paperwork, and you bring it in with you. They even have their own form that you can just fill in the blanks on.
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haha - I know. Shame on me.
I just couldn't resist.
Here's the thing ladies - SHE was obviously joking. And she's not going to stop me from having one if I want one. I don't personally feel it's necessary to have a super rigid birth plan, because I think it's important to go with the flow and be open minded (call me a hippie if you will...)
That said, my hubs and I, and our wise-crackin' OB (who I have no plans to replace) are all very clear on my wishes. I'm planning to go epi-free and not induce unless it becomes medically necessary. So, not exactly getting hooked up in the parking lot. On the flipside, I've never had a baby before, and I reserve the right to change my mind when I feel what labor's really all about.
But c'mon. You have to admit that's pretty funny. And who doesn't want a doctor that's good for a laugh or two?
On the contrary, not having a birth plan last time and having the experience I did made it more imperative to discuss it with my MW this time.
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Dude. Are you me?
LOL!
I'm personally thankful that my doctor takes my wishes and preferences seriously enough to want to discuss a birth plan with me. He was pleased that I took the time to consider some of my options and discuss them with him prior to the birth.It helped him know what I was hoping for, and it helped me know what to expect from him (what was and was not workable).
Based on my "hippy" birth plan he was able to make suggestions to help us have the birth epxerience we want. For example, we are using hypnobirthing and would like a quiet room. When he heard that he said to tell the nurses at registration that he suggested we have a room at the end of the hallway farthest from the nurses' station. I would have never thought to ask that had I not made a list of our birth preferences and discussed it with him!
You know, if there is one thing that gets my e-panties in a bunch, its all of the people who say that people who have birth plans, or would dare educate themselves and develop a medical opinion different from their doctor's, are not doing what is best for their child, or putting their child in danger.
I would love to be there if these people saw two different doctors (for anything) who had different opinions on the best course of action- would their heads actually explode? How would they make a decision between two people who unequivocally know what is the right course of action, since they can't have any kind of valid thoughts on the subject?
More in keeping with the post, my CNM said that the joke is, "the longer the birth plan, the greater chance of c-section," because the really long, detailed, birth plans often come from women who can't relax enough to ever deliver normally. That said, she thinks that they are good to have, as long as they are short and simple, so all the nurses know the basics without you having to tell them all multiple times, because they're posted in your chart. Mine will include things like "please don't offer pain meds, we'll ask" and "we'd like to wait a few minutes before cutting cord" etc.
Ditto X1,000,000. As though birth plans are vanity projects.
The thing is, having the best birth experience I can is NOT just about me - it IS about the safety and well-being of my baby. Expectantly managed labor is generally much safer than actively managed labor (i.e., if there's not really a problem, keep your mitts off of me)...but most OBs (and hospitals) don't know how to do the waiting game with birth.