Decided to NOT get the NT scan

childof007 · July 2009

nightingayle:

I'm a no-go as well. And I'm not planning on living 9 months of bliss either...I'm educating myself on all possible outcomes and staying connected to my mind and body as much as possible. Regardless of whether or not I have the screening, I'm still very capable of preparing myself. And so are you. Period.

And so I don't think you are being selfish or making any claims as to the "main reason" this gets done. It's your personal opinion, your child, and so, your decision. I applaud you for starting this post because it is tough to put your decisions out there and receive the kind of feedback you have. Some people are just sensitive because they have made THEIR decision, and it happens to be different from yours.

Sheesh, I asked a question about insurance and addressed the homebirth mommies out there, and actually got a comment saying I shouldn't be doing homebirth just because it's cheaper. lol uuummmm....Never even said that! They are everywhere, just stick to your feelings, based on your own research, and good luck

Thank you for this. It's nice to know their are people out there who don't judge. A few of you came to my aid as I was getting blasted. Thanks again guys.

Paige's Mommy · July 2009

childof007:
Paige's Mommy:
I wouldn't even consider not having one... once your baby is born are you planning on not taking him/her to check up appointments with the doctor? Isnt' it the same thing? NT Scan are preventative medicine, it's ALWAYS better to be pro-active then re-active.

Really, why would you ask a question like that? Do you know me? Do you understand what a difficult, personal decision this is?

Don't judge me for changing my mind. My anatomy scan at 20 weeks will tell me what I need to know. I just have decided to opt out of the genetic testing. Sue my why don't you.

Argh, I'm in shock, really I can't believe you would suggest I wouldn't take my child to dr's appt.

I apologize if I've offended you but this is a legitimate question for me. I really don't understand why a parent would not want to be made aware of any potential health risks for their child whether in the womb or in your arms.

Any decision is the right decision as long as you always have your child's best interest at heart. So if you do then you've made the right choice.

pandagirl15 · July 2009

We're not going to get it done. I know a lot of people who have gotten false positives from it and were worried over nothing. It's not going to make a difference for me, so I'm not going to get it.

SeaStar430 · July 2009

ocho2002:

I'm having one and have no plan on terminating. I don't know anyone who had that plan either. If you're going to be a parent, you should be thinking about your baby and not yourselves. I don't want to hear that there is something wrong either, but its the responsible, mature thing to do. If there is something wrong, I have a responsibility to my child to be ready to deal with any problems that are likely to exist at the earliest possible time. Assuring yourselves 9 months of *bliss* with your head in the sand is just selfish in my opinion.

Yes Yes

Every reason I've ever heard for not wanting to get the NT scan is entirely 100% selfish. Having to do with not having to worry, or being scared, or nervous. I'm doing what's best for the baby, not what's best for myself, and if there's even a .01% chance that being prepared or finding another health issue that can be fixed is possible, it's worth me being worried, scared, and prepared. Even if you were told your baby had Downs and then they didn't...great! You still did the best thing for your baby and it all turned out great in the end.

nightingayle · July 2009

SeaStar430:
ocho2002:

I'm having one and have no plan on terminating. I don't know anyone who had that plan either. If you're going to be a parent, you should be thinking about your baby and not yourselves. I don't want to hear that there is something wrong either, but its the responsible, mature thing to do. If there is something wrong, I have a responsibility to my child to be ready to deal with any problems that are likely to exist at the earliest possible time. Assuring yourselves 9 months of *bliss* with your head in the sand is just selfish in my opinion.

Every reason I've ever heard for not wanting to get the NT scan is entirely 100% selfish. Having to do with not having to worry, or being scared, or nervous. I'm doing what's best for the baby, not what's best for myself, and if there's even a .01% chance that being prepared or finding another health issue that can be fixed is possible, it's worth me being worried, scared, and prepared. Even if you were told your baby had Downs and then they didn't...great! You still did the best thing for your baby and it all turned out great in the end.

When you put it like this, it's much less imposing, as some of the other ladies have been towards the author of this thread. And I agree, I'd love to know everything that is going on...I'm honestly scared sh**less!

However, (more personal info that no one could know from these posts alone) my mother works in special education...in fact, it's the severely physical or otherwise handicapped department in our school district, and she is a huge advocate for finding out as much as possible.

Respecting my wishes is difficult for her, but she can provide me with a long list of doctors and specialists the moment anything is found, even if it's as last minute as the day the baby is born. So for me, personally, I have a great connection to whatever I'll need. Maybe not everyone has this, but you never know what kind of info they DO have, so maybe they aren't being selfish, they are just prepared in their own way.

childof007 · July 2009

nightingayle:
SeaStar430:
ocho2002:

I'm having one and have no plan on terminating. I don't know anyone who had that plan either. If you're going to be a parent, you should be thinking about your baby and not yourselves. I don't want to hear that there is something wrong either, but its the responsible, mature thing to do. If there is something wrong, I have a responsibility to my child to be ready to deal with any problems that are likely to exist at the earliest possible time. Assuring yourselves 9 months of *bliss* with your head in the sand is just selfish in my opinion.

Every reason I've ever heard for not wanting to get the NT scan is entirely 100% selfish. Having to do with not having to worry, or being scared, or nervous. I'm doing what's best for the baby, not what's best for myself, and if there's even a .01% chance that being prepared or finding another health issue that can be fixed is possible, it's worth me being worried, scared, and prepared. Even if you were told your baby had Downs and then they didn't...great! You still did the best thing for your baby and it all turned out great in the end.

When you put it like this, it's much less imposing, as some of the other ladies have been towards the author of this thread. And I agree, I'd love to know everything that is going on...I'm honestly scared sh**less!

However, (more personal info that no one could know from these posts alone) my mother works in special education...in fact, it's the severely physical or otherwise handicapped department in our school district, and she is a huge advocate for finding out as much as possible.

Respecting my wishes is difficult for her, but she can provide me with a long list of doctors and specialists the moment anything is found, even if it's as last minute as the day the baby is born. So for me, personally, I have a great connection to whatever I'll need. Maybe not everyone has this, but you never know what kind of info they DO have, so maybe they aren't being selfish, they are just prepared in their own way.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, I just felted really bashed for mine. I'm not going to get an amino or terminate so IMO, I don't need the screening. Maybe how I phrased my original post is what set people off. I apologize. I do however, see that everyone that bashed me basically had the screening done with good results and I'm glad to hear that. What would you have done differently if the results were not good? Freaked out, call doctors, specialists, sought advice from the internet, etc. Would you get an amino and cvs to confirm? Would you terminate? These are all rhetorical questions I asked myself. I weighed the pros and cons and did what is best for me and my baby. The last thing I'm being is selfish and not prepared.

Thanks to those who opinions were respectful. I feel sorry for the ones who were not.

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