How do you girls handle the "so, when you are going to have kids?"

smilee · July 2009

We have a our niece's 5 yo birthday party today, and while our immediate family knows why we don't have kids, there will be plenty of people there who do not.

As it often happens, I am anticipating the question to be asked ( I am sure multiple times).

Just curious how you all handle it.

Irishsapphire · July 2009

I just smile and say that we are TTC, but of of course, we are older and it is not as easy. (Most people do not know that I am 37, because I look younger). And this is in God's timing. (I have gone through two miscarriages--the effort is there--now figuring out what God knows is just one more thing--the crazy thing is that we may need better luck).

GymDogFran · July 2009

I say, "Well, I'm 39, so it better be soon, huh?!"

LizzyB11 · July 2009

Most of my friends and immediate family know we're trying, especially now that we miscarried. However, I tell other people that it's just not as easy as wanting it, and that God will let us know when the time is right. It sucks answering questions you'd rather not deal with!

baze2 · July 2009

I just tell say "we are sure practicing alot and practice makes perfect" that usually shuts them up b/c then they get embarassed as they should be. They don't know how to react! It works.. And I laugh

OscarQ · July 2009

baze2:
I just tell say "we are sure practicing alot and practice makes perfect" that usually shuts them up b/c then they get embarassed as they should be. They don't know how to react! It works.. And I laugh

Pretty much this. ?I have two weddings the next two weekends so I'm thinking up other responses too. ?Good luck at the party.?

stacia1633 · July 2009

I just mumble something like we're working on it, or something along those lines.

hollymichael · July 2009

I usually say something like, "when my body decides to cooperate". This will usually lead into a quick change of subject or a discussion about fertility issues, depending on the person who asked.

CharBart · July 2009

I don't get this too much except from family....and I just usually tell them that I'm old and who knows what will happen...that usually shuts them up.

FrannyS · July 2009

I find most people don't ask. When they do I say "we're trying". If its someone that asked me a year ago I might say "still trying".

itsmexine · July 2009

It depends on who asks and my mood.

For some who I don't think it is their business I'll say well we just got married and are enjoying that for now so we'll see. But usually it is well we've been trying I guess it just isn't our time yet. Or for those I know well - I've had 2 early miscarriages (I don't think folks understand a chem pg) so when one wants to stick I'll be pregnant.

peztopper · July 2009

i was expecting that question today and was prepared with:

"you'll be the FIRST to know when we're pregnant".

hehe. luckily i didn't have to use it!?

panda246 · July 2009

baze2:
I just tell say "we are sure practicing alot and practice makes perfect" that usually shuts them up b/c then they get embarassed as they should be. They don't know how to react! It works.. And I laugh

This is usually what I say too. Perhaps a little passive, but it get's people off our backs!

BirdieBrd · July 2009

hollymichael:
I usually say something like, "when my body decides to cooperate". This will usually lead into a quick change of subject or a discussion about fertility issues, depending on the person who asked.

This is along the line of what I say. The responses I usually get are 'Oh. Okay' in an uncomfortable tone and then we are on to the next subject.

mscandyman · July 2009

Weird, but the only people who ask me this are complete strangers that I happen to meet at parties/work events/through friends. Like it's any of their business! So, although it sounds horrible, rude and evil, I usually respond with "Oh, I had a baby this morning with a little garlic cream sauce...it was delicious" Usually shuts them up right away.

krif9@yahoo.com · July 2009

mscandyman, that's funny!

It's true that you seem to get that question more from strangers, or at least people who don't know you well. I usually respond with something like, "Oh, I didn't know that having a baby was a requirement. Must've missed the memo." Then they get embarassed, as they should be, for asking such a stupid question.

joyfulnature · July 2009

I think my family is still in shock that I actually got married. So they are too stunned to ask much about having babies.

DH's family hints at the question, but they never come out with it directly. So we just pretend we don't get the hint.

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