My MIL told us in January after getting a double lung transplant that our future baby should be named after her... Her name is Mary Josephine.... how do you say no to someone who just went through major surgery?! So after much thought, we came up with the middle name of Marianna combining her name and my mom's middle name so they both feel special...
Oh GL.....My mom hates our girl name but everyone else loves it. I told her too bad - not her kid. I hate when people think they have the right to name someone else's baby.
I feel bad for you, and I can totally relate! My MIL is being so annoying... seeing little kids and being like "I ordered a girl" or "That's going to be you soon" or answering the phone "this is grandma!" GET A LIFE, lady! I feel like I am no longer a person, just a vessel carrying a baby.
i agree the baby totally looks like your DH...and a shrimp!! wtf at 5w5d a baby doesn't even look like a person. your MIL definitely has a case of the crazies. good luck
Oh GL.....My mom hates our girl name but everyone else loves it. I told her too bad - not her kid. I hate when people think they have the right to name someone else's baby.
Did I mention I have been in a mood recently. LOL
SERIOUSLY!!! me and DH looooove Evelyn. and people immediately say, ohhh, i dont like that....DID I ASK YOU???? lol im moody too :P
I think we have the same MIL! We told my ILs on father's day, we went out to late lunch/early dinner & the entire meal she was asking names, nursey themes, how long I'm planning on taking off, offering to drive 2 hrs to babysit so I can get out etc. LOVE the enthusiasm but we had only known ourselves for 5 days. I thought her getting out family albums when we got home from eating out and lookin through them for potential family names (forget about my side & family names) was a little over the top but the real kicker was when she left a voice mail asking me to scan and email her a copy of our 6wk 6day u/s baby, which she called her baby btw. Anyways, crazy lady!
tell her she can name the baby if she's willing to have it. elsewise, tell her you were thinking since it was your baby and all, that it might be cool for you and dh to choose the name. if that's cool with her?
She also thinks the baby looks like DH after seeing our 5w5d u/s.
This is going to be a looooong pregnancy!
Oh-helllzz no! If that isn't a red flag, then I don't know what... Stick up for yourself!!!!!!! You have to set the ground work that this is YOUR child- not hers'!
Oh GL.....My mom hates our girl name but everyone else loves it. I told her too bad - not her kid. I hate when people think they have the right to name someone else's baby.
?Did? I mention I have been in a mood recently. LOL
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SERIOUSLY!!! me and DH looooove Evelyn. and people immediately say, ohhh, i dont like that....DID I ASK YOU???? lol? im moody too :P
Our girl name is Evelyn too!!!!!!! The FI's family HATES the name and they make little remarks about it whenever they can. I'm pretty much ready to pimp slap them all. Sometimes I wish I weren't so polite.....
I think it's kind of funny. Be grateful that she is interested in your pregnancy. My mom has been texting me different baby names since she found out (4 weeks). I think it's funny, although she knows that considering her suggestions does not mean that she is naming the baby.
I can't imagine how my MIL is going to react when she finds out were prego! With are luck she may say something like... your doing this to punish me so I don't get to see the baby... kinda thing.
All mom's are like that in some way or another...
I have learned all you can do is Smile and say Thank You after you take a BIG breath!!!!
She's craaazyyyy! I'm surprised my MIL has not done this to us, maybe its waiting in the wings. On another note DH and I made the mistake of stating we like Ava Rose (rose was my grandmothers name) and my sister who btw has not a boyfriend for years was like wtf I totally have picked ava out as a name I was gonna use from when we were kids! I was like I hardly feel like we can call names from when we were 8?!?
I feel bad for you, and I can totally relate! My MIL is being so annoying... seeing little kids and being like "I ordered a girl" or "That's going to be you soon" or answering the phone "this is grandma!" GET A LIFE, lady! I feel like I am no longer a person, just a vessel carrying a baby.
Get used to feeling like a vessel...that really hits when people walk up and say hello and start grabbing the belly before saying hello to your face! I'm remembering this with love, really...but man, it's a tad annoying! At least I have a pregnancy buddy that can commisserate with me!
my MIL is the same way. She keeps throwing "family" names, but if we have a boy, we are going to use Owen in either the first or middle name since that is DH's middle name and that's a family name too. I say "NO" each time she brings them up so you think she would get a hint. Then she tells us her grandmother's name was Lena, which is pretty, but we already have a girl's name picked out.
It's frustrating when she just throws the same names out there. aggh!
ugh I know.. my mil very firmly told me there is no way our babies middle name can be Robert after my grandfather. I was like who do you think you are??? Sometimes I just want to say BACK OFF
My MIL passed away very suddenly and very unexpectedly in January (heart attack; she was a nurse and appeared "healthy" by all standard measures). I would give anything to be on here complaining about her bugging me during my pregnancy.
Take a deep breath and try to remember how lucky your little one will be to grow up knowing her. She obviously must have done a good job with your DH, or you wouldn't be with him today
I'm sure any venting is good natured and we're very sorry for your loss. But, I think it's fair to vent here, to not bring it out in real life, and say something you'll regret.
My In-laws, luckily, planned a cross country trip that started the week after we told them we're pregnant. They are happily very wrapped up in their trip of a lifetime, while we enjoy the relative radio silence while we understand and grasp with what it will mean to be parents.
Re: MIL is picking out names
OMG. It's good to know I'm not along.
alone!
Oh GL.....My mom hates our girl name but everyone else loves it. I told her too bad - not her kid. I hate when people think they have the right to name someone else's baby.
Did I mention I have been in a mood recently. LOL
I feel bad for you, and I can totally relate! My MIL is being so annoying... seeing little kids and being like "I ordered a girl" or "That's going to be you soon" or answering the phone "this is grandma!" GET A LIFE, lady! I feel like I am no longer a person, just a vessel carrying a baby.
Lol that's funny. Be happy that she is excited but I know what you may be feeling.
It's both cute and annoying that she's thinking about baby names. Did you tell her that she could help name the baby?
SERIOUSLY!!! me and DH looooove Evelyn. and people immediately say, ohhh, i dont like that....DID I ASK YOU???? lol im moody too :P
Don't include her in anythiing else. No US lookie loos, nothing. My MIL did the same thing...
ooooh my..
thank God, DH and I are very clear about how much mom's should be involved... and have limits..
he's being bugging them (my mom & MIL) and threathing them to "behave" or wont have evenings with their grandson...
I'm so grateful his so supportive and that we share the same "vision"...
and definetively they won't be asked about names... they've got their chance.. and absolutely no names of them...
but I hope everything turns out fine... try to remember it's your child.. not hers!!
GL
Oh-helllzz no! If that isn't a red flag, then I don't know what... Stick up for yourself!!!!!!! You have to set the ground work that this is YOUR child- not hers'!
Our girl name is Evelyn too!!!!!!! The FI's family HATES the name and they make little remarks about it whenever they can. I'm pretty much ready to pimp slap them all. Sometimes I wish I weren't so polite.....
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I think it's kind of funny. Be grateful that she is interested in your pregnancy. My mom has been texting me different baby names since she found out (4 weeks). I think it's funny, although she knows that considering her suggestions does not mean that she is naming the baby.
Bwahahaha! Your MIL is hilarious.
Oh honey they are all like that!!!
I can't imagine how my MIL is going to react when she finds out were prego! With are luck she may say something like... your doing this to punish me so I don't get to see the baby... kinda thing.
All mom's are like that in some way or another...
I have learned all you can do is Smile and say Thank You after you take a BIG breath!!!!
Get used to feeling like a vessel...that really hits when people walk up and say hello and start grabbing the belly before saying hello to your face! I'm remembering this with love, really...but man, it's a tad annoying! At least I have a pregnancy buddy that can commisserate with me!
my MIL is the same way. She keeps throwing "family" names, but if we have a boy, we are going to use Owen in either the first or middle name since that is DH's middle name and that's a family name too. I say "NO" each time she brings them up so you think she would get a hint. Then she tells us her grandmother's name was Lena, which is pretty, but we already have a girl's name picked out.
It's frustrating when she just throws the same names out there. aggh!
My MIL passed away very suddenly and very unexpectedly in January (heart attack; she was a nurse and appeared "healthy" by all standard measures). I would give anything to be on here complaining about her bugging me during my pregnancy.
Take a deep breath and try to remember how lucky your little one will be to grow up knowing her. She obviously must have done a good job with your DH, or you wouldn't be with him today
I'm sure any venting is good natured and we're very sorry for your loss. But, I think it's fair to vent here, to not bring it out in real life, and say something you'll regret.
My In-laws, luckily, planned a cross country trip that started the week after we told them we're pregnant. They are happily very wrapped up in their trip of a lifetime, while we enjoy the relative radio silence while we understand and grasp with what it will mean to be parents.