For pregnant moms with toddlers

mamaofliam · July 2009

At my appt today, I told MW I was having a few harder contractions. She told me I had to stop lifting DS. I know I am supposed to and certainly don't want to harm LO, but honestly, how do you not lift your toddler? He needs help getting into the car seat, booster, etc. What do you do?

prettyshoes · July 2009

No one has told me this. I'll admit, it's harder to lift her now but no one has told me not to.

madhatter2003 · July 2009

I lifted my DD until the very end. I gave her a big hug as I was walking out the door to deliver...and almost dropped her when a contraction hit.

BUT if you are having any signs of preterm labor I'd be cautious. And do not lift them after delivery no matter how easy it is....I lifted my DD on day 2 and separated my stomach muscles...ouch!! Teach them to come to you and climb in your lap, etc. if you can

It is tough.

LoveEeyore · July 2009

I put her changing table pad on the floor and we bought a toddler table and chairs to feed her at so I didn't have to lift her into the high chair. When I had music class or regularly scheduled events, a neighbor would pop by to put her in the car seat. When she wanted cuddles, I went down to the ground with her. When she threw a tantrum b/cshe wanted up, she had to get over it, and got tons of love and snuggles when she calmed down. When both babies hit over 5lb mark- I went back to lifting her and carrying her.

Livi8181 · July 2009

I was in a similar situation at 31 weeks and they thought I might be going into preterm labor for the second time....my first was born at exactly 36 weeks. I was told to take it as easy as possible and not to lift her. It was impossible to do this all the time because I am home alone from 8:30-7:30 each day. I had some family and a few friends come by to at least entertain her.....and I had my husband run some of the errands that I would normally do. I also tried to sit on the floor and play with her as much as possible and I changed her diaper on the floor. I did still lift her, because sometimes it was impossible not to.....carseat, etc.......but I just tried to comfort her or hold her on the floor when I would normally pick her up. So, it was tough, but I did still pick her up, just not as much as I was before!

mamaofliam · July 2009

Thanks all.

faithhollett · July 2009

At this point, your toddler may be big enough to start climbing into the car seat himself. I guess it depends on the kind of car you drive. But, my daughter has climbed in on her own for a long time. Things may go slower, but it's always nice to teach kids some independence. Most everything can be modified to work out if we use our imaginations.

mamaofliam · July 2009

faithhollett:
At this point, your toddler may be big enough to start climbing into the car seat himself. I guess it depends on the kind of car you drive. But, my daughter has climbed in on her own for a long time. Things may go slower, but it's always nice to teach kids some independence. Most everything can be modified to work out if we use our imaginations.

Oh, he does try, but since he is short, he really can't quite reach.

mediadiva · July 2009

My doc has not said a word about to me, I was always under the impression that if you KEEP UP something you can keep doing it while pregnant, maybe not lifting weights and running but like if someone walks a lot or does yoga etc they can keep it up.

?After I while I could not put DD to bed beacuse when i would lift her up to put her into the crib A) It was hard and I felt it was not good and she would strugle a bit making it worse.

?ODDLY enough its easier to pick her up now then it was a month ago?? no idea why. I still pick her up but we modified things some, DH gives her a bath because leaning over and picking her up from there is just too hard (so she does't slip and run around nakkid and pee like she likes too lol). So I can take her to daycare and put her in the car and it does not hurt bad or anything. I now work from home 2 days a week and DH takes her and that has helped me LOTS. He changes her diapers and sometimes puts on her clothing and shoe's for me and this also helps. So I moderate it.?

guilliatt05 · July 2009

I find it really hard sometimes. My son is 3 1/2 and he still loves being cuddled and I LOVE cuddling with him and holding him when he wants me to. He is also at the stage though where I can explain to him why at that certain point I can't hold him, but we can go sit down and play together on the floor (although its getting harder to get up off the floor) or I will tell him we can go sit on the couch. I do actually end up carring my son into my moms house in the morning (she watches him for me while I'm at work) b/c he is still asleep but we've been working on that in the mornings.

lilone_06 · July 2009

I was told this at my last appt too. I still lift her in/out of the carseat and highchair, and onto the slide or swings or stroller when we're out and about, but try to limit it to that. No extra lifting at home. Oh, also, I do occasionally have to pick her up when we're out and she refuses to come with me or is throwing a tantrum.

It's hard! But I just do my best. No lifting at all is just not realistic.

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