Why does it hurt so much?

suntoto@gmail.com · July 2009

When you find out someone you know is now pregnant and I am still TTCAL with no BFP in sight???!!! I hate this part of TTCAL!

:sobs!::

scooter999 · July 2009

Im sorry! It really does suck...((hugs))

jumagirl · July 2009

((hugs)). ?I hear ya. ?My bff is pg wih #2 - I am so thrilled for her - but I just want one!

cindybaf · July 2009

I know. It's not like I don't want them to have a baby, I'm happy for them of course, but I just want to avoid them after I find out. After my e/p, a friend announced that she was 12 wks pg while we were out to dinner with other friends. She surprised us all by showing us her maternity pants and her teeny bump. We were all shocked, esp since we didn't even get she was pg by showing us her tummy...stunned, I jumped up and gave her a big hug-I think she felt like noone else cared as much as I did. I try to be very supportive, but I have other friends that I know are trying and I'm just not looking forward to being supportive to everyone else. I'm like, great, now go away for nine months and take care!

ping1080 · July 2009

It's always the pg women who get me upset & feeling down! It's definitely not fair!

texas77 · July 2009

ugh, how unfair. i'm sorry girl. its like some cruel joke from the universe.

browniris · July 2009

I know what you mean! Even when you are happy for them, it can make it so hard to be around them because it is a reminder of what you want but don't have! ((HUGS!))

MrsEzStar · July 2009

texas77:
ugh, how unfair. i'm sorry girl. its like some cruel joke from the universe.

This! Life is totally cruel sometimes. I am seriously dreading my friends telling me they are pg. As far I know, they aren't trying, but it seems everyone around me that isn't trying, are the ones getting ku with sticky babies. Sad

Mrs0815 · July 2009

How could it not hurt? it stings Every.single.time! Sorry hun.

PeetiePie · July 2009

Yup - it blows! The only time it doesn't is when I see ladies on here get BFPs.

ColindaP · July 2009

My husband and I were talking about this last night, I mean he gets it and it sucks for him too, but on a different level he just doesn't *get* it. I'm already feeling really not-so-excited about the shower I'm co-hosting in a couple weeks for a close friend who's due on my due date from first pg, and I was telling him how if it's just going to be a series of mc's for us, I am in for a loooong 10+ years of having to host showers and act all excited and happy and rub bellies and yada yada yada and how I will resent every second of it, in spite of the fact that I am happy for my friends that they are not having the same issues. I don't think he really gets it.

ohdanna · July 2009

To me it's kind of like I was running a race and some A-hole tripped me and all my friends got to the finish line and I'm still trying to get up. Obviously I know TTC is not a race, but I just feel like that in way only because I should be farther along in my pregnancy than them hadn't I mc'd.

redshoegirl · July 2009

I'm sorry hon...I had one of these today, too. I'm so happy for her, and so sad for myself...it's so confusing and hard to deal with. (((hugs)))

suntoto@gmail.com · July 2009

It is a cruel joke, isn't it Texas! Ugghhh after a year and a half of TTCAL I am bitter and affraid that I will never get my BFP and a sticky baby... Tongue Tied

suntoto@gmail.com · July 2009

browniris:
I know what you mean! Even when you are happy for them, it can make it so hard to be around them because it is a reminder of what you want but don't have! ((HUGS!))

And also when you aren't happy for them b/c you know they did not want a baby and you just cannot seem to get pregnant...

suntoto@gmail.com · July 2009

ohdanna:
To me it's kind of like I was running a race and some A-hole tripped me and all my friends got to the finish line and I'm still trying to get up. Obviously I know TTC is not a race, but I just feel like that in way only because I should be farther along in my pregnancy than them hadn't I mc'd.

That is a good description...

JenyM · July 2009

It hurts for 2 reasons. We want a bfp and we are also reminded of what we lost/could have had.

Hugs i totally feel your pain. There's a baby boom around me :-(

karing2 · July 2009

browniris:
I know what you mean! Even when you are happy for them, it can make it so hard to be around them because it is a reminder of what you want but don't have! ((HUGS!))

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