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what does "flicking" mean to you?

Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie
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When ever I see someone say they "flick" their LO as a way to discipline it makes me shudder.  Maybe I am envisioning flicking differently than what they mean.  Using your thumb to hold back your middle finger by the tip and letting it go is what I think of.  I probably didn't describe that clearly.  That is something my brother would do to me to annoy me in the backseat when we were little not something I would think to do to my LO to divert him from danger.
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Re: what does "flicking" mean to you?

  • alicia11780alicia11780

    The way you described it is exactly what I think of.  When someone says they use it as a form of discipline maybe they just aren't using force behind the flick.  Like more of a slight poke, or tap, to let the child know that you were talking to them.

    I don't know.  I personally haven't heard anyone say they use it as a form of discipline.

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  • JessibellJessibell
    I think of flicking the same way you do. I can't imagine doing it to DD.... Hopefully that isn't what they mean.
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  • jenifairiesjenifairies

    Same here. I don't do that to my dh, dogs, or anyone else. I'm not going to do it to my child. I also don't get why people say they 'tap' 'pop' or 'swat' - it's all the same to me. It's striking a child, period.

    I have never understood why it's acceptable to hit your children in any way under the guise of discipline but to do it to another adult is assault and battery. Don't get it at all. Add me to the list of pansy parents who won't 'spank' their kids. Sorry for the tangent!

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  • Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie
    imageAlicia11780:

    The way you described it is exactly what I think of.  When someone says they use it as a form of discipline maybe they just aren't using force behind the flick.  Like more of a slight poke, or tap, to let the child know that you were talking to them.

    I don't know.  I personally haven't heard anyone say they use it as a form of discipline.

    https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/18596341.aspx

    just the most recent example but I have seen it a lot on these boards.

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  • Tess12Tess12 member
    Well, I had a conversation with someone about how she flicks her son and she made the flicking gesture you described.  So, that's what I assume people mean when they say flicking.
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  • funchickenfunchicken member
    Prior to today, I had never heard anyone say they "flick" their child.  I can't even wrap my mind around it.  What demented parenting book recommends "flicking"?
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  • thomas&lynnthomas&lynn member

    I know TimeOuts for 13month olds are also somewhat debated on here but I do them (and have been since 11mos). Well, I hold her hands and look her square in the eyes instead of try to get her to stay in a spot for 45seconds, but I often wonder if those parents that flick/swat/pop/smack/tap/hit thier kiddos ever even tried TOs first. It's a method that ends in hugs and kisses, no tears (at least for my DD at her age), and is completely flick free!!

     

     

     

     

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  • fIowerchildfIowerchild
    Flicking is what our brothers did to us, not what a parent should be doing for discipline. Strange.
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