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Blended Families
Alcoholism is not determined by how much you drink or how often, but by negative consequences in your life that do not alter your drinking habits.
Being blended really sucks..
Back when we had more money, DH and I went to a great counselor. He once said "There's no such thing as a blended family". I didn't get it at the time. I was so high on being a stepmom and making everyone happy. I get it now...
It seems impossible for all parties to be cordial and get along. I don't know why I expect that. DH doesn't communicate much with his ex and plans are constantly misinterpreted and get screwed up, which always seems to f*** up my plans. Me on the other hand, get along with my ex and his wife and it drives DH up a wall. He thinks there needs to be boundaries and wonders why we got divorced in the first place.
On the plus side, his kids are wonderful. I can't ask for better SK's and they're very mindful, but I don't like the way he talks to my son. He doesn't yell, but I don't like his attitude with him at times. Even if DS deserved it, I find myself biting my tongue and becoming defensive.
So, he hasn't talked much to me this week. We weren't supposed to have his kids this past week because BM was taking them camping for part of the week, then it was her turn for the 4th, and then the next day is her birthday. So, instead of taking the kids for just 2 days in the middle of the week, we agreed months ago that she should just keep them the whole week. Again, communication was dropped and BM thought we were taking them for a couple days and I said no. I already had made plans for my son and I to do a couple things by ourselves. We also had no groceries in the house and our A/C was out. I know that wasn't a nice thing for me to do, but I just get sick of it.
I love my husband, but I swear I will not do this marrying thing again at my age. If I ever find myself single again, I will keep my own house, children, and finances seperate from any "friend" I may have and the "friend" keep their own home and crap seperate...I think that would be so much easier.
Ok...Perk up Eriona! It's the 4th of July..I need a beer..
Alcoholism is not determined by how much you drink or how often, but by negative consequences in your life that do not alter your drinking habits.
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Re: Being blended really sucks..
Stay postive and realize when there are that many people involved in the day to day aspects of your life, things will get messed up and plans will get ruined. You just have to roll with the punches. Good luck, Chin up!!!!
No...just having a downer weekend I suppose.
Well we all have those!!!
But cheer up!!!! Life is too short, and remember it could always be worse!!!!!
I have had those days.
RSVP Date: 2/28/2011
Yup, me too this last week or so. It doesn't help dh got laid off and we had to move in with my parents.