Anyone gain more weight than Ob/Dr recommended?

EdithR · July 2009

I have been beyond depressed since my last OB visit (which was on Tuesday). She made feel like crap because I gained 8 lbs in one month and all she cares about is if I exercise. She doesn't care about the sciatic problem I have or the fact that I had spotting issues after walking during my 1st Trimester (which is why I'm afraid to exercise). All she cares about is if I exercise, period. I was 165lbs before meds for IVF/FET, 171lbs when we got the BFP (2/14) and now at 24 weeks I'm 188 lbs. I seriously eat healthy, drink water all day and limit intake of sweets. I know that my focus should be on the baby and if the baby is healthy, vs my looks, but it bothers me that she would go out of her way to point out how big I got and ask if I"m sure I'm not having twins (and overhear about how cute the pregnant girl in the next room is because she's skinny and growing gradually).

If you read this far, thanks for reading and letting me vent online. Not like I have other people I can talk to in person.

somethingchangd · July 2009

wait...your DOCTOR asked you if you're sure you're not having twins? I would be seriously p!ssed about that. And it's one thing to think exercising is important, but to ignore other problems and focus only on exercising is inappropriate. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

And yes, I gained 50 lbs (my doc recommended no more than 25-30). I gained 12 lbs one month. When I gained "only" 8 the next month, my OB celebrated with me for getting it more under control. She never once gave me a hard time about my weight.

schmoodle · July 2009

I would get a new OB. Whether or not she's concerned about your pregnancy weight gain, it doesn't sound like she's providing the kind of care you need if she's more concerned about your weight than other issues you're telling her about, and telling you to exercise when you have spotting and worry about that.

Not to mention, depending on your height, it sounds like you're in the overweight but not obese weight range. Based on that, you've gained 17 lbs at 24 weeks and the guidelines say its ok to go up 25 lbs so you've got some wiggle room and it's not like you've gained 30 already. Yes, you will probably gain more than the recommendations but most people do, to be honest. I gained 30 lbs total and should have gained around 15-20 (was 187 pre-pregnancy, up from 170 when I started TTC thanks to IVF and leftover weight from our twin pregnancy). I lost 20 by a week after birth (have gained a couple back but that's because I'm intentionally stuffing myself to try and build up my milk supply).

Hang in there!

Waiting4baby08 · July 2009

Even besides her fascination with your weight gain, it doesn't sound like you are comfortable with this doctor. I wouldn't be either if she ignored my issues and concerns like that. I am already overweight so around 24 weeks I saw one of the other doctors in the practice (we have to meet them all) and she told me to take it easy on the weight gain after only gaining 10lbs the whole pregnancy. I was furious because I'm proud of myself for containing the gain and my doctor isn't concerned at all. There are WAY more important things going on in pregnancy than weight gain. Don't beat yourself up, you are doing great. But consider getting an OB who doesn't upset you so much.

tina623 · July 2009

My first OB was a weight fanatic and I would cry every visit. At 6 months I left her office in tears and found someone else. The rest of my pregnancy went great. I gained 42 pounds and two healthy full term girls. If your OB gets too much for you, I'd switch sooner than later.

kammy · July 2009

I am gaining more than I should. (up 32 pounds so far)

Between OB and MFM, I see about 8 different doctors. It's funny because a couple of them have brought it up (gently though. yours sounds kind of b!tchy), but several of them never comment on it at all; even this last appointment when I gained a bit quickly.

You are not alone on the weight gain.

firemansflame · July 2009

You know what is crazy is that I have gained more than I should and I ask my doctor about it EVERY time I'm there and she's like, "nope you're good". What? If you're supposed to gain 25-30 lbs for the whole pregnancy and I had gained (28 lbs according to her scale but she didn't start weighing me until 9wks pg / so really 35 lbs from my starting / pre IF weight) at about 30 1/2 wks pg. It's a lot for me (I'm also very short) and she never says a word. Your doc sounds a bit insensitive.

Sorry you're dealing w/this.

dusk42 · July 2009

Comparing you to another patient = rude

Asking you if you are having twins = unconscionably rude

Not recognizing your concerns is also a big problem.

I changed OBs at 14 weeks for much less than that, and every visit, I am so glad I did.

So maybe you are gaining weight faster than recommended. Oh well. You know that, and no one is motivated by yelling/scolding.

On the more constructive side, once you find your new OB, ask her about something even more low-impact than walking, like swimming. Or maybe prenatal yoga.

I hate her for you.

CrazeyJaneyR · July 2009

She sounds tactless. If she is concerned about exercise, I doubt it is because of how you look. She may be concerned about your health and the baby's health - and while that is totally acceptable, her delivery sucks.

I can NOT believe she said that about twins - what a ***!?

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