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PSA: Make sure you know what's going on (NBR)

leslielou22leslielou22
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I work at an insurance agency and lately there seems to be quite a few younger men passing away or leaving their wives.  Most of the time, the men have handled everything when it comes to paying bills and such and the women are clueless and overwhelmed when the responsibility falls on them.  Take the time to make sure you know what bills are coming in and what they are for.

Also, take the time to meet with people such as financial advisors at a bank regarding your loans, savings, and investments, or insurance agents to make sure you understand what your insurance is covering.  Reviewing everything every 3-5 years makes a huge difference so you know whats going on!

 I'm not trying to sound like a downer, but you never know what the future will hold.  Plus 3 times in the past 2 weeks, I've had women crying at my desk saying over and over again "I don't know, my husband handled everything!" and it's starting to really bother me.

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Re: PSA: Make sure you know what's going on (NBR)

  • zoieglowzoieglow member
    That's good advice, thanks!
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  • Mama JanMama Jan member
    It could go the other way in our house.  I handle most of it, DH has no idea.  I try to keep him informed though for that very reason - and he has a list of all the bills I pay online as well as the log in and password info.
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  • suscqsuscq

    That's so true.  Also, make sure that someone besides you and your spouse know where all the important paperwork is kept.

    DH's uncle had always handled everything, but was super organized and had a folder that had a copy of EVERYTHING in it, so that if he died, his wife wouldn't have to search for anything.  When he died, she forgot (in her grief) where the folder was or that the folder even existed.  She couldn't access bank accounts, savings, anything.  If they had thought to tell their daughter or another family member, it would have made things so much easier.

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  • eas15905eas15905
    If only! ?Dh handles very little of these matters because he is in a PhD program and works full time so I am left doing everything else in our lives. ?Lol, I guess he'd better hope nothing happens to me or he's screwed.?
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  • pillowblingpillowbling
    this happens in divorce, too! my parents are in the middle of a bitter divorce and my father is not communicating with my mom. she does not know about any of their financial accounts, etc and it is making the divorce proceedings even harder for her (not to mention he opened a separate bank account so she has no money but is still stuck paying the same bills as before).
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  • electricdoctor83electricdoctor83 member

    Thanks for posting this....I am guilty of setting myself up for disaster if my DH even left or died.  He handles all the bill paying and bugeting. 

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