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A little envious of singleton moms
Let me preface this by saying that I LOVE my girls and am thrilled beyond belief to have them. I wouldn't change A THING and I feel so incredibly blessed to have them especially after such a long and horrendous struggle to get pregnant.
That being said, now that they are almost 1 and I take them out more, it kind of bothers me and annoys me how much 'easier' my singleton friends have it with their 1 baby. It's just the way it is and I happen to have pretty easygoing girls. It's just that it's TWO of them, not ONE. And they really have no concept of how much more difficult it is to take them anywhere or to really do anything. It actually bothers me sometimes. And then I feel incredibly guilty because they are such good girls and I love them so much and it isn't their fault.
Just wanted to vent. Thanks for listening
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Re: A little envious of singleton moms
preachin' to the choir, here, mama!
this weekend, two of the boys are going to my ILs, and we're keeping one. it's going to be so awesome! and easy! ha!
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It actually makes me sad how much I can't do w/ them. We can't go to the pool and soon - the park will be way to difficult too. AND, I don't have family near by to even pitch in... My singleton friends make all these plans and I'm left out b/c I can't do some of the things.
As someone once said, taking one baby out is just an accessory and we travel w/ an entire cargo hold.
But, here' are a few silver linings -
- As they're getting older, my boys are starting to play together more. It's great.
- The above makes it much easier for mommy to get things done. Many of my singleton mom friends talk about how needy their toddlers are for them to play w/ them all the time - not an issue.
- I rarely admit this either, but wouldn't one baby be boring? I love that I have 2 personalities to love, deal w/, learn about and culture.
oh girl..I hear you. It's IMPOSSIBLE for me to go to someone's house or be at the mall longer than like an hour or two with me and all three of them.
And sadly, because I am a "high maintenance" friend, I find myself drifting apart from certain friends who do only have one child. They are always out doing fun things and I can't. It sucks. I really feel tossed out.
One thing you can be happy about... your twins will always have the same "age group" interests!! It has been difficult to try and keep a toddler and infant occupied and happy at the same time! One needs me to chase after him all day while the other wants me to be a coloring, PlayDoh, or reading buddy. Those don't really go together very well!
It should be interesting to experience all the differences between singletons and twins in a few months' time!! : )
I was a singleton Mom to older DD for 18 months before I had twins, so I know how nice that was & all the attention I got to give her & how easy & fun it was for the two of us to go out & do things. I think that makes going from 1 to 3 (DD + a set of twins) even more difficult. I know how much I can't do now that I could do a short time ago (it's even had to take DD outside to play!), and I know first hand how much less holding and individual attention my twins get vs. DD.
That being said, I also know how much more fun it is (IMO) to have a bunch of kids instead of just one. And it is SO much more fun for the kiddies - DD loves not being an only child anymore. Although I worry about it sometimes, I just take every opportunity I can get to hold each of my 3 girls, and take every opportunity I an get to spend 1 on 1 time with each of them. They all know how much they are appreciated for the different individuals that they are, and how much they are loved, and that's what really matters.
But oh yeah, the point is that the grass is always greener, b/c sometimes I do find myself wondering how much easier things would be with only 2 - going out with just 2 kids is such a break for me!!...BUt who wants easy!!
I felt this last Summer when we were living far from family, so we hired a mother's helper off of craigslist so that I could go & do these things, & it was money well spent! I hired a college student w/daycare experience b/c I had planned to have her watch the kids while I packed for our move & also potentially use her for dh & I to have a date night or 2 before leaving Seattle. However, if you don't plan to leave your kids alone w/the helper, you could even hire a teenager for the Summer for cheap!
I've wanted to post something like this for awhile but haven't. I know what you mean. My girls are very good going out but to go out alone, it takes major planning. Can't just put the baby in the car and then go.
I get envious of my friends who sit with their one baby and cuddle and coo with them and I have to split myself in half to do that. I have to count the minutes so I make sure both get attention.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
I can relate! And I was a singleton mom for 19 months and thought it was tough! Now I know it was cake compared to having twins. All 3 of my kids are relatively easy going too but it does take major planinng to go anywhere and I remember in the first few months of the twins' lives, I felt so sad that I could not have as much individual time with each twin as I did with my oldest.
But for me, it IS getting easier now that my twins are crawling, becoming more independent, and playing a lot with each other now. I don't feel as overwhelmed all the time like I did before.
And what a relief to read from a pp that the age 2 should not be as tough for twins as it is for a singleton because my toddler is hands down giving me a much tougher time than my twins!
Hang in there! Just think, you are getting to enjoy so many things that singleton mothers don't get to enjoy...the twins interacting with each other. I saw your video a little while back on FB...priceless!!!
How many moms get to witness that! 
I wanted to respond (a little late, I know), that, as a singleton mom, I am envious of MoMs. (SIL is pg with b/b twins, so I lurk here every so often.)
As someone who had a very difficult pg (5 months of m/s, 3 trips to the ER at various times, passing out here and there, being placed on Zofran for m/s, etc.) I am envious that you all get to have 2 at one time. I will be going through another pg soon b/b we want another DC and I would really love DD to have a sibling close in age to her to be friends with/grow up with.