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I got the poor me voicemail today!

PrincessShay80PrincessShay80
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My sister is pg with twins- her and my BIL have struggled with IF- she lost a baby boy last year at 16 weeks- and she got pg this time with Clomid. But last weekend my mom told me that she was pg, about 7 weeks along- but not to tell her that I knew- because she wanted to tell me. Well I guess she found out that I knew, because today I had a "we are so sorry for you guys" message and we love you and I know how hard this must be for you.

 I hate that everyone feels bad for me! We are doing IVF in July and not telling anyone, so Im hoping I have a big surprise for everyone when we go home to visit in September. I know my sister meant well, but the "we are sorry" is almost worse then just telling me straight.

 

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  • kimarino13kimarino13 member

    I hear ya.  The last thing I want is for people to pity me.


    After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
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  • MrsKarioMrsKario
    I really hope that you have the BFP news to share in September too.  I agree with you, being pitied is worse than hearing it straight.  But honestly it sounds like your mom and sister are just considering your feelings.  It sounds like they are trying to be considerate of your feelings. 
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  • arb212arb212
    That's why we barely told anyone about our IF issues or treatments.  I knew from telling people about my thyroid cancer that I couldn't handle any more "poor you" looks.  I so hope you have a huge surprise for them in September!!
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  • EchloeEchloe
    I wish she hadn't said "we are sorry". ?It is just rubbing salt in your wounds. ?But at least she is sorry and understands what you are going ?through. ?Not a lot of sisters/friends/people in general would care at all what you are feeling about their pregnancy.
    Beautiful Miracle Baby lost at 21 weeks due to pre-term labor and incompetent cervix. FET#1 BFN, FET#2 BFP, early loss. FET#3 BFN. IVF#2 BFFN. FET #4 BFP after removing bilateral hydrosalpinx and 3 months of lupron depot. Sticky Bun is here!! Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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