Do you worry about milestones?

violets_are_blue · June 2009

As in, your child not meeting them when others are? It's not that I am competitive about it, but I'm such a paranoid freak when it comes to him that I can't help seeing everything as a sign of Autism or some freaky disorder.

How do you stop yourself from worrying about this kind of thing?

cajuncutie0169 · June 2009

i worry about this all the time. i just have to keep telling myself that since he was premature there's the possibility that he's not going to be on target with other babies his age. i don't think we can ever make ourselves completely stop worrying though.

annamie · June 2009

Honestly, you have to make yourself not worry. If you live your life in fear, you will not enjoy all the wonderful little things in your LO's life. I know, easier said than done.

MegGary · June 2009

Just try reminding yourself that all babies are different. Make it your little montra. If you are worried mention it to your pedi at the next well visit. That might give you some peice of mind.

fauxbunny · June 2009

Not really. Everyone thought my sister was deaf and all these other things, until she was about 5. Now she's a teacher in South Korea. :P

Sure showed everyone!

If she can advance that much, I'm not worried about my kid(s) not crawling the same second every other kid does, or whatever.

Lucky_Dragonfly · June 2009

I try not to worry about it too much. I do read the books to see the age range that they should be doing stuff to see what the next milestone it. Ever since he hit 9mos though he has been picking up things realy fast.

lmdbww · June 2009

I worry in the back of my mind and think it's natural to worry.

TamTam624 · June 2009

I worry about some milestones and others I do not. For example crawling was no big deal to me but rolling over was because DS would do it once in a great while now he does it all the time.

I do worry about the speech because of Autism but DS is saying Mama, Dada and Hi. Of course Mama and Dada are not in recognition.

But for instance I know all babies are different and My BF has a DS 10 days older than DS and he can not pull himself to stand and stay standing and DS is cruising like crazy and even lets go to stand, but BFs DS crawled and rolled over way before DS.

I know it is hard not to worry and sometimes you have to tell yourself to stop and just let LO be themselves, eventually they all catch up.

kgb1411 · June 2009

anyone who says they never think about or worry about milestones is lying. Maybe we should have mom milestones about the different stuff you worry about as kids get older. Like "oh, I hit my "bullies" milestone today."

Amy Schramm · June 2009

I certainly don't worry based on what people say on TN or what my friends say. I don't know 99% of the moms on TN and I have caught people on here lying about random stuff and I would not be surprised if some are embellishing their kids' accomplishments or just plain lying. I take everything said on here with a huge chunk of salt. I also think on TN and IRL parents want to see things that just aren't there, or at least aren't there consistently enough to be true milestones.

I take mommy and me classes and do playdates/playgroups with other kids DS's age. I look at the other kids and compare them to DS all the time. If I thought he was behind on several fronts, I'd worry. If he doesn't do one or two things that other kids his age do, I chalk it up to the fact that he is ahead on a few fronts (early walker, for instance). I also talk about his milestones with my ped everytime I see her and read books on when most babies do things.

Mrs.BLG · June 2009

Well, I believe they focus on one thing at a time. For example, DS and my Mom's friend's granddaughter (I'm going to call her "C" in my example) are 10 days apart. While DS was busy learning to crawl and pull himself up on things, C was busy babbling and saying mama and all that stuff. I was a little worried about DS not babbling or saying the consonant sounds, I figured that he was too focused on moving!

Now that he has crawling, standing, and cruising down, he is now babbling more. He says yea and mama and sometimes baba.

mrs.mickulz · June 2009

I think it's always in the back of your mind, but I agree that you can't spend time thinking about it or you will miss out on the precious little moments. I find it irritating when others are constantly quizzing me about what milestones she's reached... if one more person asks me if she's walking- grrrr!

mbg8r · June 2009

I do now because DD was so early with everything so since DS is much further behind I have no idea what is "normal". I assumed DD was just a little ahead of the curve...well, that would put DS way behind the curve, so now I'm paying a lot more attention to milestone charts. LOL.

102503Natalie · June 2009

Yes, somewhat. I worry moreso with her speech than anything else. She's hit most of her milestones fairly early on, but she's still pretty behind on her speech development (hardly babbles, doesn't say mama/dada often). She's more vocal lately which is helping calm some of my fears, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't worried about Autism or another disorder down the line.

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