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Anyone think of having another?
Let me preface this with I am not pregnant and not trying. (Considering I have no job nor health insurance at the time and am not ready to go through nine months of pregnancy again)
but do you ever think of having another? Even in these tough financial times?
I think I'm nuts (and I can't blame it on hormones since Madison is already 5 months). I'm not even picturing the sleep deprivation or cost just having two kids running around the house and how nice life is with Madison and possibly another one.
And I was the one years ago that said I never wanted kids or maybe I wanted one and look at me now.
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Re: Anyone think of having another?
Stopping at 1 wouldn't be an option for me unless some extreme circumstance came up. DH is an only child and he really hated the whole experience. Don't get me wrong, he had a very happy childhood and his parents doted on him and dedicated themselves to him 100%, but he really, really, really wishes he had had at least 1 sibling. Not only for when he was younger (he often felt lonely as a child not having a brother or sister to play with, and he thinks he would have been a more outgoing person if he had had a sibling), but also for now, it would be nice for him to have a brother or sister in his life to share all these milestones with (getting married, having and raising children, etc.). Plus, when my ILs get older, we'll have the sole burden/responsibility for caring for them. I've seen my parents go through this with my grandparents, and it's been so hard on them even with several siblings to share the responsibility with, so imagine just one person doing it all to care for two elderly parents.
Anyway, I can only go by what DH has said his personal experience with the whole thing was, so I know for us, having just one is not an option unless something really big happens to prevent us from having more. No offense to anyone who is an only child or plans to have an only child - this is just DH's opinion and I'm sure there are tons of only children out there who feel differently and who loved being an only child. I can't speak from experience since I haven't even had my first yet, but I'm sure all the worries you have right now (like the $$$ and the difficulties of parenting an infant with all the sleepless nights, etc.) will not seem like a big deal in a few years when they are both a little older
Now, my mom says that having TWO back to back (my bro and I are 19 months apart) was the best birth control in the world and it definitely ruined their plans to have a 3rd or a 4th, but that's an entirely different story
I think about it every day, and sadly every day the prospects get dimmer and dimmer.
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hehehe...I have two and think about a third everyday but we are done for now. Dh says that we are done but i think I will bring the subject up again in 2 yrs.?
I always wanted 2 kids since I am an only child and I would've loved to have a sibling. Now as an adult I really miss that.?
It's hard to wrap my mind around at this point b/c I'm already feeling stretched almost to my limit, but DH feels very strongly that he wants #2 to be between 2-3 years younger than #1, preferably on the 2 years side. Theoretically I always agreed that that was a good idea, but now that I'm thinking about the fact that we're talking a month or so and then start on #2 I'm beginning to freak out a little more. But I just step back, take a big breath and remember that family is the most important thing
Then of course DS does something to remind me how much he's changed in a year and I suddenly want another one NOW!