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jlcrane78
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DH suggested that I give up temping
jlcrane78
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in Infertility
This morning my temp fell below the coverline. It is 11dpo, and I have had a sinking feeling that AF is on her way for the past 2 days now. I cried this morning for the first cycle in a long time. I know this is nothing new to feel, but I thought we did EVERYTHING right. We timed our BD'ing perfectly in my eyes, and I just can't see how this cycle wasn't our BFP cycle. I don't get it.
DH is heading back home from a business trip today, and I was talking on the phone with him this morning. I think I have decided that we need a break for a couple of months. We're still working to pay off a small amount of debt, and I am unemployed. Money is not necessarily tight, but we don't have any extra. I had a great interview yesterday, and I'm hoping to land the job so that we can save up toward our next course of treatment.
Anyway, he thinks I should give up temping because of mornings like this when I don't like what I see. He was cute, though. I said we would go out for sushi if I wasn't pregnant this cycle, and he has stated that we cannot go for it just yet. It's like he's holding out some small glimmer of hope. I've been fighting to hold onto some form of hope, but it's mornings like this where it seems pointless. We're broken, and nobody can tell us why.
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Re: DH suggested that I give up temping
When I was temping, I always hoped that the dip, was just an implantation thing and would then go back up like I'd read a jillion times! You never know!
I've since tossed the thermometer though and just TI for the days surrounding when I know I usually O. I was tired of it and it didn't seem to be doing anything but causing more stress!
aw hon. i know how you feel. after dh's counts for our first IUI, we're not so sure of our MFI diagnosis anymore. which means we're unexplained. and i hate that. i often think it would be nice to KNOW what the problem is so we can fix it. instead i just worry that maybe my eggs are crap afterall or there's some unfixable problem we'll never find. :::sigh:::
that being said, i gave up temping a long time ago. if you've been doing it for long enough, you know your body and know when you should be BDing for maximum effect. and you also know that 2ww charts can be cruel... and in the end, meaningless.
i hope the temp drop you saw today was a fluke, but i know i'd probably be upset, too. (((HUGS))) hang in there. you guys will know which next steps feel "right."
Because we're fancy like that.
A-FREAKING-MEN! Not only are the charts cruel, but the whole thing overall is cruel. I am always so excited and hopeful as I'm waiting to O, but then I become obsessive and over-analytic once the 2ww hits. Every twinge...every cramp...every headache...my whole life just goes topsy turvy. There has GOT to be a better way!
I'm right there with you! Been having the debate whether I should give it up, but for some reason that's the first thing I grab for when my eyes pop open every morning.
We're also unexplained and I too wish someone could just tell me what our problem is instead of "everything is fine between you two so just keep at it." I'm a problem-solver at heart so not having something to fix is what drives me up the wall!
If you do decide to stop let me know if it makes an impact on the roller coaster ride... I might just be convinced to do so also!