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Need some name advice ~ "off-limits" name?

bim38106bim38106 member
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DH loves the name Jillian ever since hearing it on the Bachelorette (or Bachelor actually from last season..). We're having another girl and are having a tough time finding a name we both love. Jillian is DH's ONLY suggestion and I actually like it. My name choices we both like, but they're so popular that we're not sure we want to go w/ them (Emily, Alexis).. then there's Julie/a but as much as we like it, we're not sure it's really "us" and can't settle on it.

My hospital puts together a first-time mom's playgroup w/ kids born w/in 2-3 month of each other.  You meet formally for 6 months, then can continue on your own. Our group started w/ 15 and there are now 10 of us who still meet twice a month. Of those 10, we're almost like 2 little groups. There are 6 of us who meet regularly and I consider good friends. The other 4 meet regularly together but I only see them at the scheduled playgroups and while I think of them as friends, they're not the kind I would just call up to meet for lunch or to talk...

One of those other 4 has a daughter DD's age named Jillian. So does that put the name off-limits? Part of me thinks it would be awkward (of course if we were 100% sure I would talk to her first) but part of me feels like I don't even see myself being long-term friends with her, unless something changes. Our DD's won't be in the same schools, etc.. WDYT? Put Jillian out of our minds, or still consider it and see where it goes?And if we do go w/ it, how would you even bring that up?
CP 3/07
BFP 5/07 - Kylie born 2/08.       BPF 2/09 - Alexandra born 10/09.
TTC since 8/13 - diagnosed difficulty conceiving due to LP defect. Took vitamin B and Vitex Berry to help lengthen.
BFP 2/14 - Missed M/C found at 8.5 weeks. D&C at 9w2d. Partial Molar Pregnancy.
BFP 11/14
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Re: Need some name advice ~ "off-limits" name?

  • franciscazfranciscaz member

    Ummm NO!!!  It isn't like she is even a BFF or a family member.  I say use it if you like it Smile

     And for the record I don't think anyone ever owns a name. 

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  • Tess12Tess12 member
    It is absolutely not off-limits.  If anything, she'll be pleased that you like the name enough to use it.  When I meet other Madeleines, I don't think, "That b!tch stole my name."  I think, "That mom has great taste!"
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  • kelsey-Kkelsey-K
    It's a beautiful name.  If you like it, use it.  She doesn't have a patent on it. 
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  • NaplesWifeyNaplesWifey

    I definitely wouldn't consider it off-limits if you don't see yourself being long-term friends. I would have a hard time naming my child the same name as a close friend, but someone who is basically a close acquaintance through a playgroup... no problem! And I think the name Jillian is really cute!

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  • meglewmeglew member

    imageTess12:
    It is absolutely not off-limits.  If anything, she'll be pleased that you like the name enough to use it.  When I meet other Madeleines, I don't think, "That b!tch stole my name."  I think, "That mom has great taste!"

    So true!

    With regards to the name Jillian, I do not think that it is off-limits at all.  She is an acquaintance, they are not the same age, and most likely they will have different middle names.  If it is a name that you and your DH love, I say go for it!

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  • Temp778367875008010Temp778367875008010
    I agree, she is just an acquaintance, not someone you interact with on a very regular basis.  I say go for it!
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  • LoriFalceLoriFalce member

    I love Jillian, I think it works nicely with your style, your husband loves it, and you might not use it because someone you see occasionally used it?

    No, it's not off limits. And if you decided on it and wanted to talk to her about it, I would smack you in the back of the head, a la NCIS. You DON'T have to ask permission to use the name. She didn't buy First North American Naming Rights.

    Also, because I know you love Julie, I would name her Jillian and call her Jillie.

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  • Spin313Spin313 member

    If you love it, use it!  I don't think there has to be any conversation with her about the fact that you are using the name.

    (on a separate note, did you see my page post to you a few days ago?)

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  • bim38106bim38106 member

    Thanks guys. At first I felt like it would be too weird, but the more I talk to people about it, the more I think it's just fine :) And LOL Lori, I guess I should say not that I'd ask her permission, but just mention it to her like this is what we're doing..that way she knows it's coming ;)

    Spin, no I didn't see your page to me. I have had a chance to be online very much lately.. I must have missed it.

    CP 3/07
    BFP 5/07 - Kylie born 2/08.       BPF 2/09 - Alexandra born 10/09.
    TTC since 8/13 - diagnosed difficulty conceiving due to LP defect. Took vitamin B and Vitex Berry to help lengthen.
    BFP 2/14 - Missed M/C found at 8.5 weeks. D&C at 9w2d. Partial Molar Pregnancy.
    BFP 11/14
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  • schnappycatschnappycat member
    No, it's not off limits! One of my best friends has a girl (she's 8 now) named Gillian, so I like it. :)
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  • Erin&RodErin&Rod

    Definately not!  I would tell her that Jillian is one of your top names.  If it were me I would be flattered that someone liked a name as much as I did.

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  • tigerlillliestigerlilllies

    I agree with all other posters. And as an example, in my moms club there is a 3 y.o. Elisabeth. Another mom in the group just had her 3rd daughter and named her Elizabeth. I doubt Elisabeth's mom will have any ill will about new little Elizabeth.

    btw, Jillian was one of our top names when we were considering names for DD. Love it!

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  • runnergirl79runnergirl79 member
    The name is definitely not off limits.  Even if you were close friends, I still wouldn't see a problem.  The fact that you're not even close to her other than the playgroup makes me think you shouldn't worry about it in the least.  I love the name Jillian, and if DH would agree to it, would consider it if we were to have another girl.
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  • Bride_BestBride_Best
    I love the name!  We actually agreed on "Jill", as I liked it more than Jillian (personally).  I say use it, as pp's said that you're not BFF or family!
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  • Spin313Spin313 member

    imagebim38106:
    Spin, no I didn't see your page to me. I have had a chance to be online very much lately.. I must have missed it.

    I don't know if you're going to check this thread again, but I asked if you wanted to get our mom groups together at a park this summer? 

    I will try paging you again next time I notice you posting.  I don't know how to send private message.

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