Confession Poll

MrsMandaK · June 2009

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sistrkate · June 2009

I don't know how long it will be after this baby is born, but when after I had Justin, I couldn't wait till the 6 weeks were over. My DH was afraid to touch me during 3rd tri and I was really missing it! I do think you need to get it over with.....I know the first time is pretty bad but it does get better, you know that.

KristenBtobe · June 2009

We got pretty drunk on a date night and took the plunge. Stick out tongue

KristenBtobe · June 2009

We got pretty drunk on a date night and took the plunge. Stick out tongue

MelissaMc22 · June 2009

yeah, wine helps....=)

teacherjess · June 2009

After DD was born, we affectionately referred to me as "Frankencrotch." Between that, the PPD, and my intense fear of getting pregnant again (a friend of ours who had a baby the same time as us got pregnant at 6 weeks pp), we waited until I had completely healed AND had my IUD put in. I had Leah on May 10 and we didn't have sex until after the IUD was in and had been checked on once-- end of August. You do the math! Don't feel bad!

teacherjess · June 2009

And yes, wine makes EVERYTHING easier! Haha!

MrsMoher · June 2009

6 to 8 weeks, because I felt like I was being a bad wife (I mean we didn't do the deed for a few weeks before birth and then 6 or 7 weeks after, you know?)... but I wish I had waited longer and probably will this time around, because it hurt so bad for months after E was born. Isn't that time after delivery lovely?

Meg41208 · June 2009

I have to qualify my answer- we got the okay just before 6 weeks and we gave it a shot but it hurt. Around 9 weeks, really.

cat81305 · June 2009

It was over 12 weeks with DS and when we tried after that it hurt like 'he*l' so we waited even longer. I also continued to tear everytime we had sex due to lack of estrogen in that area (I think is what it was) so finally after getting the nerve to ask my OB, I got cream for my tear area and it was much better so it was a while for us.

Temp806465500003043 · June 2009

We tried after about 7 weeks and it hurt so bad we didn't even finish. We tried about once a month since then and it hurt still so we stopped. On our anniversary (June 9, DD was 8 months!) we did it and didn't hurt as bad. We have done it a bunch since then and it 95% back to normal. I can still feel where I tore but barely. Good luck!

Megs&Nick · June 2009

We did it shortly after getting the okay from the OB at 6 weeks, coupled with lots of prodding from DH. I told DH that I was more nervous about doing it after having a baby than I was the first time I ever did it! I had read so much about how badly it hurts that I was so scared. Luckly, I didn't have much pain.

MrsMandaK · June 2009

Thanks ladies! I am beginning to feel really guilty about holding out on him, so maybe we'll just go for it tonight. Wink

Between breastfeeding and going on the Lexapro for PPD, it's been really hard to get myself in the mood!

teacherjess · June 2009

MrsMandaK:
Thanks ladies! I am beginning to feel really guilty about holding out on him, so maybe we'll just go for it tonight.

Between breastfeeding and going on the Lexapro for PPD, it's been really hard to get myself in the mood!

The Lexapro can really have an impact on your drive. I was on Lexapro and weaned off right around the time that my IUD was placed anyway, and while I was on Lexapro, I had ZERO interest in sex.

jgeiman · June 2009

We waited until after my 6 wk PP check to make sure everything was okay. Especially important because of the complications that I'd had.

The first time wasn't the greatest, but DH understood that he needed to take it slow, and was great about paying attention to my cues.
It actually didn't hurt as badly as I thought it would, but didn't feel great either.

The 2nd time I remember was much better, and then it gradually got better after that.

Now it's almost like it was pre-pg, although there are still times that it bothers me, like if he gets really deep or something.

GL!

adamsbabble · June 2009

After having Ava we did it the weekend before my 6 week PP checkup. It wasn't bad at all but I had no tearing/stitches. I'll add that we were not dreading doing the deed at all b/c I was on pelvic rest at the end of my pregnancy with her and it had been longer than the 6 weeks... we were a bit anxious. We haven't done it since having Charlotte but I am planning on it this weekend. I'll be 6 weeks PP on Monday so I figure that is close enough. I didn't tear this time either so I am hoping all goes well once again.

kel716 · June 2009

We waited a while- I know it was longer than 12 weeks. DH was scared he would hurt me (aww!). It hurt but wasn't too bad. I also had a ligament tear down there which just complicated issues. So it's pretty much hurt a little ever since and dh knows this... so he doesn't initiate. I haven't had much pain there lately so I'm hoping it's healed. We'll find out in the coming days.

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