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I used to think I would spank my children...

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..as a last resort. I was spanked on occasion and so was dh. We even had the random slaps on the leg and whatnot; we never planned to do that. But we always said, "if our kids do anything to hurt themselves or others and nothing else works, we will spank."

We have totally changed our minds now that we have a child. Slowly but surely, during talking about raising K, we have come to the decision that we will not spank...ever. We started really thinking about what our spankings did for us- and there is only one time I feel I deserved a spanking (I could've killed my cousin with my selfisness and irresponsibility..I was 6, she was 1.5...ugh..I need to explain- I wanted to go outside, my mom said no. I ran out when she went to grab something from the back...left the door open and my cousin fell down the outside stairs..she only had a small bump on her head, Thank God!)

Other than that, we realized our spankings only made us hurt and angry. We realized it did not help too much, and even if it changed our behavior, it did not change our hearts.

So, my children will be disciplined, that's for sure, but they will not be spanked. Though, I understand why people do it and do not think spanking= abuse.

Oh, and I do see a difference in hitting a child and an adult. You don't put adults in time out either, you know. Should we not do that to kids? Just saying.

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Re: I used to think I would spank my children...

  • AmberliAmberli
    I used to think I would too if dc was unsafe.  I just don't know anymore.  The whole way I look at the world is so different now. 
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  • punkfictionpunkfiction
    good for you, star!! :)
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  • middlemarch26middlemarch26 member

    I always said I might (NEVER out of frustration, but calmly and under specific circumstances, involving a discussion of what DC did wrong, etc).  I was spanked in that manner, occasionally, as a child and do not feel that it harmed me in any way.

    Now that I have him, I can not imagine hitting DS.  I just can't see myself doing it.

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  • Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie

    my mom always said that spanking is a sign of a lack of creativity.  she was all about the long, labourious punishments.  I like it though I wasn't a fan back then :)

    FWIW, I was spanked/hit twice.  Both times I had it coming.  I told my Dad "Tough Shitt to you too, if you like it so much you wear it" in regards to some hand-me-downs from my cousin that he told me "tough shitt, it looks good, it fits, you are going to wear it"

    and the second was for something TERRIBLE I said to my mom which I won't repeat. 

     

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  • stephm0188stephm0188

    I'm usually the first to say "never say never," but not in this case. I won't do it. I was abused as a child, and if anything, having my own baby has made me even more angry with my own parents.

    I'm not saying spanking is always abuse. I think there are far worse things that you can do to a child without ever touching him. But, its not for me.

     

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