I feel bad I just lost it with my mom...(vent)

Mrs.NYC · June 2009

So, I haven't spoken to my mom in a few days bc she was away at a retreat and called her at lunch. I tell her about the IUI that may happen this week, she doesn't really say anything and then begins to tell me about a holistic GYN that she met at the retreat.

She told the holistic lady how I was TTC and it wasn't happening yet. She told her about how I said I am Aries and am impatient, lol. the gyn said that a baby's soul doesn't want to come to an impatient person and I just have to relax, lol. I know there is no harm in this and holistics think differrently but it totally just rubbed me the wrong way at the moment and just snapped at her. I feel bad bc she didn't mean it, maybe I am just a little high-strung today. lol

sorry just had to vent.

SigmundsGirl · June 2009

I'm so sorry. I would have lost it too. When you have a medical condition, "just relax" is the last thing you want to hear especially if you have shared all of this information with your mom.

BenandDina · June 2009

I hope I don't offend anyone with what I'm about to say because that's not my intent, but this is why holistic practitioners piss me off (I'm also biased due to my profession and also, since DH and a lot of our friends are real physicians, so holistic practioners strike me as wackadoodles)...what the h-*ll does that even mean about the baby's soul? Who in the world is this woman to say crap like that? Impatience has nothing to do with IF; there is not a single iota of resarch to back up any sort of personality characteristic being related to IF. GRRRR...I'm really angry for you.

That being said, your Mom probably has the best intentions and wanted to offer you some support, but she didn't go about it in the best way. It's amazing how insensitive people can be.

Mrs.NYC · June 2009

I know it didn't come from a bad place but at the moment all I wanted to hear was "good luck" or something supportive. lol! I thought this would be an easy thing TTC, both my mom and grandmother had 5 kids! lol It's all just a bit overwhelming at times, I guess.

jeannaqueena · June 2009

ahhh the old "just relax" got that today myself sorry it came from your mom, who should be so understanding.

Carmela752 · June 2009

Oh boy. That makes a ton of sense. So all these babies' souls want to come into crackhead moms who will abuse the crap out of them? Riiiiiiiight.

Mrs.R2D2 · June 2009

Mrs.NYC:

the gyn said that a baby's soul doesn't want to come to an impatient person

So to paraphrase, this faith healer basically told youre mom that you have IF because you're such a flawed person that no baby wants to be your child; your mother felt compelled to share this with you; and now you feel bad for going off at her?

Ever hear that expression about the truly guilty never feeling that way?

I am sorry you had to hear that ignorant and cruel "professional opinion".

Mrs.NYC · June 2009

benanddina - who knows what she meant. I am not opposed to doing things a more natural way at times but this isn't one of them. I consider myself a spiritual person but some things they say, I agree are a bit WACKY!

my mom has a good heart and meant well, that's why I feel bad that I snapped. lol she is just a bit ADD at times, prob. where I get it from.

mrs.oz · June 2009

Are you effing kidding me? ?My mom is into holistic stuff too. ?She told me that I got my fibroid by eating food that isn't good for my body and that if I just ate the right food, it would shrink. ?That was enough for me. ?I never told my mom about my fibroid surgery and she doesn't know we're trying to get pregnant.?

I'm an Aries too. ?Thank goodness she doesn't know we're TTC otherwise she'd bring my astrological sign into the equation too.?

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