advice? please!

Re: advice? please!

• someflower6 member

  June 2009

  i'm so sorry for your loss. i didn't have a natural m/c, i had a d&c. i assume from your post you are going natural, so i can't help much there. i hope you get a lot of input, but it not there's a lot of previous posts about what to expect from a natural m/c. it's different for everyone, but maybe you can find some help...

  best to you.

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• WearingRed member

  June 2009

  I am sorry for you lose and that you have to join us. First there is no right/wrong way to prepare for what you are going to go through. Just like there is no right/wrong way to deal with it. Go through a reading other post will be helpful. Most of us Post our stories about what is going on or what went on to help those who are not sure what to expect. Second asking questions on this board will never be dumb.  We are here to help you however we can.

  ::Wishing for a fast recovery for you:: ::HUGS::
  

  

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• stellar_magnitude

  June 2009

  I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this.

  I really can't give you any advice. You should definitely consult with your doctor about what to do next. In my case, my doctor gave me the option of miscarrying on my own or having a D&C. I chose to do it on my own. I will say that doing this is not for the faint of heart. My miscarriage was pretty painful, but everyone was very supportive and that eased a little of the stress.

  The hardest part is my opinion is getting through the emotional parts of it. It's going to be tough but it's a little easier if you surround yourself with people that care. If you have any questions or just need to talk, feel free to come on this board. Unfortunately, we've all been through this and we know exactly how you feel.

  Once again... I'm so sorry. ((BIG HUGS))

  

  

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• sunflower.17

  June 2009

  first, i am so deeply sorry you have to go through this. second, don't worry about sounding dumb, everyone on this board is so supportive! to try to help you out, the best i can do is share a little bit of my own story. i had a natural m/c, and from what i understand, mine went "well." i passed everything and stopped bleeding within a week, and my cramps and major bleeding were all the first day. that's not to downplay it, the cramps were more full on contractions than any cramps i've ever experienced, and i didn't have any pain relief. i was also ten weeks. so many women on here have had different experiences, so it's hard to tell exactly what you'll go through, but i have to say the scariest part for me were the huge clots i was passing. again, i am really sorry for your loss, just try to take really good care of yourself through this difficult time.

  tears in heaven. 5.21.09

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• TravelinMama member

  June 2009

  So sorry for your loss, as said already please don't feel dumb for posting anything here. 

  Everyone is different.  With my second m/c the baby had been dead for 2 weeks before I went in for my appointment, I was scheduled for a d/c with that one.  No waiting around for it to pass naturally.

  My first m/c I passed naturally and there was some cramping, a little more than a period.  Started with spotting and after 5 days turned heavier, than at the peak it was quite heavy, almost 2 weeks later.  I bled for 18 days. 

  I hope it passes quick for you.  The waiting for it to be over is horrible.

  Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS

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