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Marrying_my_beach_boy · June 2009

So I don't have PCOS. Thank you lord. But I got off the depo shot about 4 months ago. I have been bleeding for a month and 1/2 on and off. Supposedly that is normal. But it's weriding me out. I can't TTC if I am bleeding. Personal reasons, not saying it's impossible.

My birthday is coming up soon. I wanted a BFP for my birthday. I don't see that happening. My Anniversary is on the 4th of July. I really hope I get one for that. But with my mom always making me cry. I don't know.

Any suggestions besides meds on dealing with a situation with a mean mom? My mom has always played favorites. Out of 7 kids she loved my second to youngest sister the most. I could never imagine loving my kids less than one another. Everytime I am with her all she talks about is buying things for my sister cause they are so her. Even if I like it, and it's more for me.

Well my sister recently had a baby. Not my mom's first grandchild and certainly not her last. My sister moved in with my mom. So my mom can change the dirty diapers and stuff. Well she quit her job and my mom and step dad support her and her child. Yet I am getting the crap end of the stick.

I am being treated like crap cause I have yet to give her a grandchild. I feel like the black sheep. She has no time to talk to me, cause she is busy spending it with my sister. She will even pick Facebook and American Idol over me. Like until I give her a grandchild I am non-existant. Which stresses me out more and cry. I can't sleep. It's 130am. I am not remotely tired. But I have cried alot.

I already feel like a failure as a woman and then my own mother basically rubs it in my face. It hurts so bad. I just want to crawl in a hole and never come out.

erica2573 · June 2009

I am so sorry you are going through all this. IF is hard enough but when you don't have your parents and family supporting you through the journey, it is even harder! I too have felt many times that I am a failure as a woman because I haven't been able to "reproduce"....wasn't that what my body was made for! But when I feel this way, I have to step back and remind myself that I am a carrying, sympathetic, supportive, professional, friendly, giving WOMAN---we can't let fertility or IF define us..there is soooo much more that we are! I wish you the best and hope you get your BFP in time for your anniversary...what a great way to celebrate! GL!

psychmusetls · June 2009

::hugs:: I have problems enough with my mil, I can't imagine that coming from my own mother. . IF sucks and if she won't support you, then shame on her! We are all here for you!

GL for your anniversary!

jcombs · June 2009

I've got an unsupportive side on my family too, though luckily my Mum is still really great for me, but she's it. As my hubby said, don't worry about the rest of them, if they don't realize that you're a great person, then they aren't worth the time you're taking to worry about it.

And yes hormones and bleeding can happen when coming off birth control. It can take a normal healthy couple, under 35, a year to conceive. I know we all wanted to get pregnant the first try, but that's just not realistic for everyone. Yes get the bleeding under control, maybe read Taking Charge of Your Fertility and start charting with fertilityfriend.com. These are all steps that make you feel like you doing something. Good luck!

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