Is Your Husband Doing More Now That You're Pregnant?

dakota3 · June 2009

When I got pregnant, I assumed my husband would start taking care of more things around the house (like cooking and cleaning, etc) and running errands (like taking care of the car registration, going to the grocery store, etc.). But he hasn't. He has a very busy and stressful job, so he hasn't done anything "extra" since I've been pregnant. Has yours?

snsgurl728 · June 2009

My DH definitely is. I try and hold up as much as I can, but sometimes sweeping is back-breaking work, or my feet have taken all they can. He really helps me out so much, I'm really thankful.

I'm sorry about your H. I'm sure he's trying to find balance also.

sunshine_77 · June 2009

nope.?

sigh...I guess he just assumes I'm superwoman.?

hisbride2be2 · June 2009

Yeah, he's doing more of getting on my nerves!! Super Angry

no really he is helping out about the same, he asks more how am I feeling, and stuff like that. He always did more laundry than me, he cleans the kitchen after I cook, stuff like that. Oh, I guess he is doing the litter box now too! Stick out tongue

sgrl · June 2009

Yes, He Has Been Doing More. Wink

Have you asked him for help? He might not realize that you're overwhelmed.

Stephany Fritz · June 2009

DH has always done all the cooking (by choice mind you, he loves to cook) and I usually do the laundry. We share most the other household chores and whatnot and I pay the bills.

However he has made a point not to let me carry laundry up or down the stairs (even if it's just a load of towels) and he's taken over the litter box (when my sister won't come do it -haha). So I guess he has done a little extra lately...as needed Especially getting stuff of the top shelf for me so I'm not climbing on the counters!

Now if I could just talk him into making ice cream runs and stuff! Guess in some ways it's better that he doesn't cause then I'm not packing on the pounds!

dairygirl19 · June 2009

Not really. But I don't mind staying busy with househould tasks and errands. Takes my mind off the things we worry about.

We also both work super physical jobs..so things like sweeping and laundry don't bother me.

We live on a farm though..so he does pick up more of the outside tasks I used to do...like throwing hay off wagons, etc. I still do it somewhat but I can't do it as long as I used to.

LiebeMama · June 2009

Funny that you say that, actually, he does laundry like he is in love with the task.

snowflake19 · June 2009

He has been very helpful - infortunately he sucks at some it b/c he never used to do it. For example yesterday he put 2 loads of laundry in the dryer on HIGH. I can not afford the shrinkage in clothes these days. Poor guy, I didnt have the heart to tell him yet but need to before he does it again.

I agree with pp, if you are hoping he could help more just ask. He may not realize how hard things are getting for you, especially if you are not one that mentions aches/pains/discomfort.

Lil'Misa · June 2009

I've been lucky. We have always split household choirs. He does do more on days I feel like crap but over all we still do the same amount of work each.

vegemom302 · June 2009

Yeah my DH has been very helpful. Try being very specific about what you could use help with. Sometimes guys just have no idea.

userdeleted · June 2009

Have you asked him for more help? And I mean specific things, not just "more help" in general. If not, see how he responds if you ask him to maybe, throw in a load of laundry or cook dinner one night. I think those would be some perfectly reasonable requests.

To answer your question, yes. My husband really pitches in a lot when I'm pregnant, but I make sure to let him know when I need the extra help.

C.E.W86 · June 2009

Absolutely not my husband does nothing more than he use to do except carry the heavy grocery bags! LOL But oh well

skinnursemandee · June 2009

He has been amazing! In the beginning I was put on bedrest for bleeding so he took over everything. Now that I am no longer on bedrest and back to work, he still does most things. I do laundry but he will carry it where it needs to go. I cook because he burns water but he takes care of the dog and most other things. He prefers to do it because he says that I am growing the baby so it's his job to protect the baby.

meg07bride · June 2009

my dh was doing more in the beginning -carrying the laundry baskets, heavy bags and vacuuming, etc. Then he hurt his back when i was 13 weeks. He isn't supposed to lift more than 10-15 lbs now, so i have been doing more. i just try to make smaller loads and take more trips or rest more between chores. i agree w/the pp, you should ask your dh for help.

cbjpl31 · June 2009

Not really. My BF will offer to get me things more often but I'm still the only one who cleans up, does laundry, dishes, etc. He has always cooked but he makes such a mess compared to when I do it that I almost hate when he does cook! Just more for me to clean! lol

Arlene Holt · June 2009

MH and I haven't changed much since I got pregnant & I didn't expect more/less of him because of my situation. I don't expect things to change much as he works long hours and my job is cake. Perhaps when the baby is born he'll have to pick up extra chores for a little while, and of course, help me take care of the baby.

blushingbrideoct07 · June 2009

DH has always been really great at helping me out around the house. ?We both work and there is no way I could do it all. ?

I was super tired one night and fell asleep really early. ?When I woke up the next morning I found a love note and that he went grocery shopping, did all the laundry, and emptied the dishwasher. ?No flowers, candy or?jewelry?could have made me happier then I was that morning. ??

neonvicki81 · June 2009

Yep! He is awesome! bring laundry up and down, vacuuming, buying groceries so I don't have to, and he even bought a lot of the heavy stuff so while he's away I won't have to get it. When I was on bedrest, he wasn't letting me do anything!

And, he's always telling me to sit down and get rest! He's awesome!! And I'm so lucky!

emmared1986 · June 2009

Yes! Right now he is organizing the kitchen. I keep telling him not to worry about things, I can take care of them. I feel like a bad wife sometimes, cause I get so tired and he will vaccum and do dishes. I know I should be stoked, but I keep feeling like I'm failing. We have only been married 3 months, I dont want him to think I'm lazy...

Ashmre5 · June 2009

DH has always been very helpful so i'd say things are the same.

jmfm08 · June 2009

Maybe he does not realize it. Talk to him about it. I have been blessed!! My husband has been taken great care of me and our 6 children!! He cooks,runs errands,grocery shops,goes to my doctor appts.,and helps keep our children in line. There have been times my mood swings get out of control. It is hard doing it the 7th time, he still forgives me. I thank the Lord that He gave him to me!!!!

maria15288 · June 2009

My husband definitely has been BUT I'm having a high risk pregnancy so I think that has a lot to do with it. He wasn't doing this much last time. I'm just enjoying the extras for now Wink

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