Honest thoughts re: 2nd baby shower

soon2Bkranz · June 2009

My family talked and talked about throwing me a baby shower for JLK...but it never happened. A very sweet nestie did step up and throw me a friend one though So I have had a baby shower, not like I have never had one or anything like that.

Obviously because of how she joined our family she was already born, which was actually kinda neat! But I have been thinking that it would be nice to celebrate this baby and do a more traditional shower...With my family..

But is it as tacky as it feels?

Nobody has mentioned doing one so I would need to bring it up...

I just dont want to come off as ungrateful or like I dont realize I dont deserve one since I am already a mom...

Please honest thoughts...

ModernMomma · June 2009

I don't think it's tacky at all, especially in your situation! Every baby (and pregnant lady) should be celebrated. Plus, your family didn't participate in your last shower, so it's not a second one for them.

tiki_t · June 2009

I think that you should bring it up. Your family was the one who mentioned it and never followed through.

Soon2BmrsMoreno · June 2009

In my family we like to celebrate the new baby - and a shower is the best way to do it. If you feel tacky because you already have a lot of baby stuff left over you can do a 'no gifts' type party where you just party, eat & celebrate the newest family member.?

Mine were 9 years apart & I didnt have ANY baby stuff so I didnt feel bad about it at all! the fact is most people love to celebrate a pregnant lady & want to shower her with cute tiny baby stuff! Enjoy it! Revel in it! thats my opinion

hersheykiss · June 2009

I say, go for it! You deserve one just for the fact that you are having a baby, regardless of how you are having one. Is there anything you need that you do not have already?

StefandTodd · June 2009

I honestly think it would be great, and because totally of how you phrased it, and how I'm sure you mean it - this is to celebrate this baby, NOT you becoming a mother b/c yes, of course, you already are a mother. Plenty of people have a second shower, even if it's a "sprinkle"...is that right? So, IMHO, there's nothing wrong with having a shower. Because you probably already have a lot of stuff, maybe it's less to get gifted with baby stuff and more to celebrate your pregnancy, this baby, and being with friends and family that love you and are so happy for you that you're adding to your family. I totally think you should go for it if someone wants to do this for you. TOTALLY.

eastbaygirl · June 2009

I honestly don't understand 2nd baby showers when the mom had a traditional baby shower for baby #1. It does seem a little greedy, IMHO. (Welcoming parties and such are totally different)

BUT, I think your situation is very different and you should absolutely have a traditional shower. Especially if your family wasn't a big part of the first shower.

soon2Bkranz · June 2009

hersheykiss:
I say, go for it! You deserve one just for the fact that you are having a baby, regardless of how you are having one. Is there anything you need that you do not have already?

Yea...mostly breastfeeding type stuff and a few other things that were borrowed for JLK and given back...Or things I wished we had for her like video monitor...And of course the bigger items like double stroller etc...

kittylove · June 2009

I am a firm believer that every pg/child should get a celebration, if that is a shower or sprinkle then it is fine by me. Just don't register for large priced items that IS tacky IMO for a 2nd shower.

SacNatasha · June 2009

You should have a shower. That is my 100% honest opinion. I wouldn't think you would come off ungrateful or anything. BUT I also love and beleive in throwing baby showers for all children, not just the first born but that is because I was the second born and have jealously issues from being the second born:) LOL

soon2Bkranz · June 2009

Ohhh I like the "sprinkle" idea...My family threw Tony a Bath (a male shower) when we were engaged! LOL

Mostly it was to embarrass him...and me by my bors giving him stuff to control me But so funny and sweet huh!

StefandTodd · June 2009

soon2Bkranz:

Ohhh I like the "sprinkle" idea...My family threw Tony a Bath (a male shower) when we were engaged! LOL

Mostly it was to embarrass him...and me by my bors giving him stuff to control me But so funny and sweet huh!

That's really cute, AND it sounds like your family would totally do a "sprinkle" right!!!

I<3MYHUSBAND · June 2009

I personally don't like full on showers for the second child, seems like overkill. However I do think every baby should be celebrated in some way, a sprinkle, a blessaway, a welcoming... I think they are more about the baby and people can bring gifts if they want but it not implied that they have to. (I personally would not register).

Dragonfly_Bride · June 2009

I've always been annoyed at how your family dropped the ball for getting a shower together for JLK.?

In my opinion a second shower is never tacky, and especially since you didn't get a family/big shower two years ago.

Go for it!?

SacNatasha · June 2009

soon2Bkranz:

Ohhh I like the "sprinkle" idea...My family threw Tony a Bath (a male shower) when we were engaged! LOL

Mostly it was to embarrass him...and me by my bors giving him stuff to control me But so funny and sweet huh!

We call the second shower a drizzle and the third shower is a spinkle!

we-love-to-try · June 2009

Dragonfly_Bride:

I've always been annoyed at how your family dropped the ball for getting a shower together for JLK.

In my opinion a second shower is never tacky, and especially since you didn't get a family/big shower two years ago.

Go for it!

Ditto this completely!

You deserve it!

danandkelly · June 2009

I generally think second (and subisquent) showers are tacky unless there is a large age gap between kids. However given the circumstances here and the fact that your family totally dropped the ball the first time you deserve a shower. Call it a sprinkle or whatever but you deserve it.

My.ABC.Life · June 2009

eastbaygirl:
I honestly don't understand 2nd baby showers when the mom had a traditional baby shower for baby #1. It does seem a little greedy, IMHO. (Welcoming parties and such are totally different)

BUT, I think your situation is very different and you should absolutely have a traditional shower. Especially if your family wasn't a big part of the first shower.

Ditto. Go for it Libby!

quesarah · June 2009

I don't think it is tacky at all either!

emeraldwednesda · June 2009

I<3MYHUSBAND:
I personally don't like full on showers for the second child, seems like overkill. However I do think every baby should be celebrated in some way, a sprinkle, a blessaway, a welcoming... I think they are more about the baby and people can bring gifts if they want but it not implied that they have to. (I personally would not register).
?

ditto this, completely.?

abvernon · June 2009

I say go for it. You deserve it and under the circumstances it is not tacky at all.

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