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It's funny how some pg women bother me, but some don't...

Carmela752Carmela752
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I have some friends whose pregnancies and babies really kind of tick me off. Sometimes it's because they're in a bad relationship, or they appear to have had everything in life handed to them (which I obviously don't know at all), or they just get so upset over matters I consider to be trivial (obviously the matters aren't trivial to them.)

But some don't bother me at all. I have one friend who never even used to want kids, and she is about to deliver any day now. I don't know how long they TTC, but I don't think it was long. She, however, is pretty empathetic with the TTTC process, and is always concerned about saying things that would be upsetting, doesn't talk about baby-related things without making sure it's OK with me, etc.

It also "helps" if they've had some kind of hardship. One friend had a high risk pg...one friend's grandmother and mother died 2 days apart within the first 3 weeks she delivered her baby, her mother's death being completely unexpected. I guess because they also realize that life is not all puppies and roses, who knows.

I don't think I'm a psychobitch, right?

 

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  • HarleyQ8HarleyQ8
    Nah, you are not a psychobitch! I work with a lady who had an Oops! pregnancy and I thought I was going to hate on her....but she was not one of those "smug" pregnant ladies like I expected her to be...so I didnt mind her at all. I think there was only a day or two when I turned green with envy on seeing her huge bump.
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  • ++southerngirl++++southerngirl++
    LOL!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! I am the SAME way.  Now, I wouldn't wish IF on anyone, but in my warped mind, I secretly wish it would take at least 6 months or they might have SOME idea of worry........  Just so the general public would have some small idea about what we go thru -- maybe it would help with all of the impersonal questions and such.  I can not believe I even said that aloud, but it is sad but true.  One of my bffs got pg the first month of trying and OMG I cried and cried and stayed at home so much - I avoided her for about 2 weeks.  DH and I are now the only couple with no children.  We have also been married the longest... BUT, I am truly glad none of my friends have been thru this and they are a huge support for me so I am truly blessed to have all of them.  Maybe this is some secret blessing for all of us that suffer from IF - I think we will all be awesome parents and all of our children will know they are loved and were longed for and for the least, most of us will have more material type things that other people w children dont have.....  that is a silver lining for me.
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  • Temp36641187503164Temp36641187503164
    One of my best friends conceived 1 week after getting married and she was a virgin bride. She went to her ob-gyn to get on BCP and was told to start them at the begining of her next cycle...it never started. She didn't want to get pregnant, but she knew she was taking a "risk" by waiting until after the wedding to start BCP.

    She wanted to travel the world with her new DH (flight attendant) and buy a house, etc. She was really down about getting pregnant and while that annoyed me, I was REALLY happy and excited for her.

    It surprised me that I was so willing to talk to her about her pregnancy and ask her a billion questions about what she was feeling, etc.

    There are other people I get really excited for as well.

    Then there are some pregnancies I wish i didn't know about.
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  • k8enewlywedk8enewlywed
    I agree with you ...I am the same way....don't feel like a psycho!
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  • RFBsbrideRFBsbride member

    You're totally not psycho - I am the same way!

    Right now, I have 2 friends who are pg and I've been avoiding them because I just can't take being around them.  It's impossible to have a conversation with either of them without them turning the convo right back to them being pregnant.

    One friend - who's a hypochondriac - claims she was put on bed rest at only 12 weeks and every day there was something new that was "wrong".  But the strange thing was that nothing was ever wrong with the baby, everything was wrong with her.  So when she had a dinner party one night, DH and I begrudgingly went and she answered the door in her pj's and with an IV in her arm as she dragged around the IV stand from room to room.  But she was perfectly fine.  She was magically taken off bed rest at about 20 weeks, but made sure to tell me she has to eat so many calories a day because she's not gaining enough weight and she just wants to look pg so badly!  UGH - SPARE ME!

    My other pg friend has been acting like she's 9 months pregnant since her first month!  She's only 3 months along now and she always has to have her feet up, claims her back is killing her, constantly talking about her "crazy cravings" and has already told one of our friends she might not be able to make it to her wedding because she'll be 7.5 months along by then and will probably be really uncomfortable.... C'MON!!!

    So no, you're not crazy - NOT AT ALL!

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  • Carmela752Carmela752

    Boy, some people are pieces of work! ;)

    Glad to hear I'm not psycho. I just need a little reaffirmation from time to time, hehe.

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