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JFa
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My two cents, and then I am done
JFa
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in Infertility
I just finished reading the rest of the posts on this whole drama. I just wanted to add my two cents and then I am taking a break from this. I just want to say that I haven't been here for too terribly long but I have never seen anyone say to a SAIFer that they were not welcome to post here....nor have I see any type of rule stating that you can only post two beta's and then you must leave.....nor have I ever seen someone get mean to someone who just got a BFP and posted more than one post about their beta. I will agree with the others about drive by BFP's....I don't understand that. But at this point I am starting to feel like people think we are the most bitter people out of all the boards.I am not going to lie and say that I am never bitter but I think its different here than IRL. I am so thankful to have each and everyone of you for support and when someone gets their BFP I will check up on them when they leave. I know I am just speaking for myself but I have never had a problem with anyone posting from SAIF. What I do have a problem with is that we are all getting lumped up into one because someone has decided to send mean pm's to someone. This whole thing just hurts my heart and I wish it was just over. I know that we all have daily stress but we also have the stress of IF and they have the stress of getting through their pregnancy with no problems and a h&h 9 months. I don't think any of us need the stress of this drama. So, with that being said.....I want to say that I love all of you....words cannot say what being a part of this board has done for me. Before I started posting I felt so alone and I felt like no one IRL understood what IF felt like. I wish that I had a opportunity to meet all of you because I would give you all a big hug. We all have this common bond and I have nothing but respect and love for all of you. I will be nothing but happy for each and every BFP....happy because another one of us has beat this horrible thing we call IF. Thanks for listening....I feel a lot better now that I got this off my chest.
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Re: My two cents, and then I am done
JFa, I could have not said this better. The stress of IF is already so hard and such a hard battle to win. The stress of worrying about m/c and having a healthy pregnancy once you get a BFP is maddening. The point is, both TTTC-er's and SAIF-er's have different stresses.
It feels so crappy that all of this drama has gone on because I feel nothing but support here. Before I found this board, I felt so isolated in my feelings. I come from a long line of fertiles and often felt I like couldn't even talk to my friends about what was happening. I wish none of us belonged to this board; at the same time, I'm so relieved that there are other women who relate to what I'm going through.
I have nothing but love for all of you. I hope the drama dies down. Big hugs to everyone who needs them.
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
My Food Blog - Good Eats 'n Sweet Treats
I am only going to speak for myself here.... but I am so happy when someone comes over from SAIF to respond. ?Mrs. Presley and Elizabeth and Krissy... it means the world that you guys still come back over here.
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I am so appreciative! ?
My blog: Making Me Mom
I couldn't agree more! I love their help and advice.
"I just want to say that I haven't been here for too terribly long but I have never seen anyone say to a SAIFer that they were not welcome to post here....nor have I see any type of rule stating that you can only post two beta's and then you must leave.....nor have I ever seen someone get mean to someone who just got a BFP and posted more than one post about their beta.
What I do have a problem with is that we are all getting lumped up into one because someone has decided to send mean pm's to someone."
Well, I've been here since October, so that's almost seven months and I've never seen any of that either. I think it's been fairly established from the replies to that thread that those "rules" were put into effect sometime in 2007--which by my estimate, means by most of the people who are probably long gone from here.
The reason I find this whole thing to be so offensive is that it would have taken all of five minutes for the person who wrote the initial OP to come over here and gauge for herself if this board was now full of jerks. Same goes for anyone else who chose to immediately chime in with an "it's so sad" comment. Had any of them chosen to do that, this entire thing could have been avoided.
I totally agree with this!!! I always lurk here, but unless I "know" the person, there is SAIFW posted somewhere, or it is something that I know a lot about I try not to post. I know for myself, and for a lot of SAIF'ers the pains of IF become ingrained into who you are and it is a common thread we all share - so we need to be there for each other.
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart) Our first love and loss 7/2/07
3 cycles clomid TI = BFNs
3 cycles clomid Ovidrel IUI = BFNs
6/27/08 Surprise BFP = chemical pg
IVF#1 July 08 BFP @7dp3dt
TTC #3 since February 2010
FET Sept. and Oct. 2010=BFN's
IVF#2 June 2011=BFP
Totally agreed. I so appreciate the SAIF'rs coming back to cheer us on or give advice. In my book, they are always welcome! I think its so sad that one post caused all the drama so unneccesarily. If they don't take the time to come back to TTTC to post ever, they shouldn't have posted something that was so negative and unfounded. I have been here for a long time and can say with certainty that nothing has changed. I think if anything its more positive and people are more supportive than ever. So thank you everyone for your support. I don't post that much, but when I do I really , really need the adive and support and greatly appreciate it.