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Pregnant after a Loss
Girls, do not rush it!
I know all the milestones are great (getting to the second trimester, starting to show, feeling movement, etc.) but try not to rush it! I was SO excited to make it into the third trimester because this pregnancy has been torture from day 1 (everything has gone wrong, trust me).
Well guess what? Pretty much the DAY I hit the third trimester, my feet & ankles swelled up like stumps (had to have my rings cut off), my blood pressure skyrocketed, & my cervix started to shorten. I think back to those few glorious weeks in the second trimester that everything was fine & I am sad that I was in such a hurry for the next milestone.
Yes, getting to the second trimester & sharing your news of the pregnancy is exciting, but don't you miss the first trimester/the time before you revealed the pregnancy when you weren't asked 500 times a day, "how are you feeling?". And yeah, I love my baby belly, but I also loved when my belly was smaller & not putting so much pressure on my circulatory system.
I am not complaining. I would cut my leg off if it meant I could make it full term & have a healthy baby. But it doesn't look like that is going to happen for me (the making it to full term part--I am still hopeful that the baby will be healthy even if it's forced to come early). I just urge those of you earlier on to try to enjoy each day because it might be your last day of feeling somewhat normal & not like an elephant-sized human incubator with the blood pressure of a heart attack man.
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Re: Girls, do not rush it!
I've had quite a few things go wrong also. I'm just so tired of being worried all the time.
I'm so sorry about your rings! That sucks!
Did they put you on bed rest bc of your cervix and bp?? I'm sorry these things are happening
Lucky-
I know, the constant worry is so mentally exhausting! I had horrible hemorrhaging from 8-14 weeks, switched OBs & new OB discovered a clotting disorder, then my NT scan came back with a high risk of Downs so I had an amnio which was terrifying, then my baby was measuring 2 weeks behind via ultrasound, now my cervix is shortening/BP is high... It never ends--I can not catch a break! My doctor gives me a fetal fibronectin test at every appointment now because they are so concerned that I am going to go into pre-term labor. I also have to have NSTs at each appointment for the same reason.
I am not on bed rest though. My midwife told me to just take it easy. There is really nothing they can do about my cervix at this point. The blood pressure thing is terrifying though--I am going to talk to my OB tomorrow & see if he thinks I need to go on BP medication or something. I am terrified of pre-e (just did a huge post about it on PAL).
Hang in there! I know you have had your share of scares as well.
Yikes- you have had a long road. You deserve a break!!! And pre-e is definitely scary stuff.
I'm glad they're watching you so closely.
I've had bleeding from SCH and placenta issues but I've also not been placed on bedrest. I've just been given the regular restrictions like no sex, no heavy lifting, stay off my feet as much as possible, things like that.
Hang in there!!