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  • llking_2984llking_2984
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    Sort of on the heels of what asianbymarriage said....

    I've been lucky in that for the most part people haven't tried to offer me tons of unsolicited advice during this pregnancy.  But any time I say anything someone always responds with "just wait - it will only get worse."  It makes me want to smack them.  I mention that I'm having a hard time sleeping.... just wait.  I say that my back hurts.... just wait.  I tell them that I'm starting to feel huge.... just wait.

    Really?  I want to say - do you think I'm an idiot?  I KNOW that I will get less sleep later.  I KNOW that my back will hurt more and more.  I KNOW that I will get bigger.  You asked me how I'm feeling - why not just let me answer.

    What's worse is that most often, the people saying this are men.  What the f*** do you know?  You've never been pregnant.

    /rant 

    THANK YOU!!! I feel the same way. DH sometimes acts like those men you talk about. He thinks he knows everything because he has been through 3 pregnancies with his ex...but hello, I am different. I am not her! You have never been through one with me. I totally know how you feel though with that. Or someone tells you not to eat something because they couldn't while pregnant, but your dr said nothing about not being able to eat it. Everyone is different and yes I know I am in for a big load.

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  • asianbymarriageasianbymarriage
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    What's worse is that most often, the people saying this are men.  What the f*** do you know?  You've never been pregnant.

    Lol. Right?! Although to DH's credit, after DD was born, he was just as tired as I was, b/c he was just as participatory as I was. I would be really annoyed w/men who said this who are less involved w/the child-rearing process. Those ones I want to smack. And NO, they don't understand the pregnant part. So that IS just annoying...

    Omg, and that is why I feel so bad about what I wrote, b/c I totally get where you're coming from - I could've written the exact same thing before DD was born. What do you say we just cuddle up with our snoogles, put on an ice pack, and "sleep while we can" ? Lol.

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  • sunmountainsunmountain

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    I went from thinking that caring about a "coming home outfit" for the baby was really silly, to panicking now that I don't have anything perfect for him to wear!!!  I really have more important ways to spend my energy and money at this point, but I foresee a shopping trip in the near future...

     

    I did this too and bought several outfits DS NEVER WORE ever. He wore a Preemie pajama set home that my mom had to go out and buy b/c he was so early and only 6#13oz. And we don't really have a good pic of him in it anyway. Don't waste your time money or energy on this - just buy a really really small "outfit" of whatever you see fit and let it go. :)

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  • sunmountainsunmountain
    I'm tired of feeling broke and I feel bad about feeling bad.  People are getting laid off and luckily, my DH is getting promoted and making more money at a great company with great pay. Somehow even with shopping at the Commissary (McChord) using coupons everywhere and cutting expenses my allotted $400 every two weeks just doesn't seem to cover gas, food, gifts (which seem never ending for family and holidays) and any sort of entertainment (community center $2 days are about it). I guess I am just doing something wrong to not make this work, I should feel lucky DH has a job and I get to stay home but I miss my 6 fig salary too but not enough to go back so I guess I suck it up. End of rant.
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  • nykolanykola

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    My boss is interviewing someone right now for the promotion she's been promising me for the last 5 months.  I want to ball my eyes out.  I'm so pissed I want to quit, but in this economy, no one is hiring, especially in advertising.

    Oh honey, you win.  Definitely one of the crappiest things ever!! Ugh. This is what frustrates me about corporate America.  I'm sorry :-(

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  • KNemoKNemo member
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    Sort of on the heels of what asianbymarriage said....

    I've been lucky in that for the most part people haven't tried to offer me tons of unsolicited advice during this pregnancy.  But any time I say anything someone always responds with "just wait - it will only get worse."  It makes me want to smack them.  I mention that I'm having a hard time sleeping.... just wait.  I say that my back hurts.... just wait.  I tell them that I'm starting to feel huge.... just wait.

    Really?  I want to say - do you think I'm an idiot?  I KNOW that I will get less sleep later.  I KNOW that my back will hurt more and more.  I KNOW that I will get bigger.  You asked me how I'm feeling - why not just let me answer.

    What's worse is that most often, the people saying this are men.  What the f*** do you know?  You've never been pregnant.

    /rant 

    IHHM~

    It doesn't get worse, it's just different!! Yeah, it's hard, but is also magical and wonderful in a way tht the 3rd tri is not!! I had the worst insomnia and was so uncomfortable in the 3rd tri that I actually think I get more sleep now (even though it is only in 3 hour increments). It's different for everyone, but having little girl Nougette in your arms will be so worth every ounce of sleep lost!! Ignore the comments as much as you can, esp. from the men folk!!

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  • Anemic_RoyaltyAnemic_Royalty

    MIL wants to come over every day to see DS (and she calls every day sometimes a few times to check in too).

    My mom has never met DS and doesn't plan on coming here to meet him.

    I wish I didn't have to deal with these two extremes.  UGH! 

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  • IdahoGirlIdahoGirl
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    Breastfeeding SUCKS right now and sometimes I just want to quit!! I have been so close to saying F this, I am going to switch to formula, but then my guilt gets the best of me.

    I really want to stick with it, but this thrush is sometimes more then I can handle. We do supplement, in the evenings, with formula because my supply is so low at night and little Maxman can't seem to get enough. So when he does get on the boobie, he is like an overly excited little piranha!

    I know it will get better, but my breasts hurt so bad right now!!

    Oh I SO know that feeling!!!!!  We didn't have an easy time of it with Maddy - and I ended up having to pump exclusively - which also SUCKS!  And, I have the same, "I'm done with this sh!t" feeling on a regular basis.

    Hang in there sister!!!

    My FF confession - I can't stand my MIL.  She drives me batty and I get unresonably angry at her for the childish way she acts.

    There are one or two other people I just can't stand and have to ignore on a regular basis, even though I'm sure they're terribly nice people.  They just annoy the crap out of me for some unknown reason.

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  • Em7.31.04Em7.31.04
    DS#@ pooped all over MIL yesterday when she first arrived for a visit at our house.  I had to step out of the room to LOL.  :-)
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  • KRoseToesKRoseToes member

    Layoffs are going to be announced in our office next week or the week after. It's going to be brutal with lots of people going. I'm pretty sure I'll be gone. We can't survive on just DH's salary. But we're still TTC this month. If I actually get laid off, I guess we'll have a discussion about stopping, but it will be really difficult. I hope that I get pregnant this cycle so that we don't have to make a decision about whether or not to stop. If I'm pregnant already and then laid off, I can't help it. But if I'm laid off and then decide to continue TTC, that's irresponsible.


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    Diagnosis: severe MFI, late ovulation, short LP, DOR
    Only option is IVF/ICIS. Waited several years before treatment because we're OOP.
    IVF/ICIS #1 in June 2012 (Protocol: Long Lupron). Stims: 6/17/12, ER: 6/30/12 (6R, 5M, 4F), ET: 7/5/12 (1 4AA embryo transferred, 0 made it to freeze) ~ Beta#1: 7/14/12 - 55, Beta#2: 7/16/12 - 100, Beta#3: 7/18/12 - 199 ~ Limbo for weeks, finally confirmed pregnancy not viable: 8/13/12 ~ D&C: 8/17/12 
    Varicocele Surgery: October 2012 (long break to wait for results, no change) 
    Changed clinics: February 2013 
    IVF/ICIS Attempt #2 in April 2013 (Protocol: Antagonist). Stims: 4/12/13, Cycle Cancelled: 4/17/13 for poor follicle response and low E2 rise. 
    IVF/ICIS Attempt #3 in May 2013 (Protocol: LEAP) Cycle Cancelled: 5/20/13 at suppression check due to cyst
    IVF/ICIS Attempt #4 in July 2013 (Protocol: LEAP). Stims: 7/20/13, ER: 8/1/13 (12R, 11M, 9F), ET: 8/6/13 (3 fair embryos transferred, 0 made it to freeze) ~ Beta#1: 8/15/13 - 86, Beta#2: 8/18/13 - 390.6, Ultrasound: 9/3/13 - TWO HEARTBEATS! 

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  • Bri&Shane_3/8/08Bri&Shane_3/8/08
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    Sort of on the heels of what asianbymarriage said....

    I've been lucky in that for the most part people haven't tried to offer me tons of unsolicited advice during this pregnancy.  But any time I say anything someone always responds with "just wait - it will only get worse."  It makes me want to smack them.  I mention that I'm having a hard time sleeping.... just wait.  I say that my back hurts.... just wait.  I tell them that I'm starting to feel huge.... just wait.

    Really?  I want to say - do you think I'm an idiot?  I KNOW that I will get less sleep later.  I KNOW that my back will hurt more and more.  I KNOW that I will get bigger.  You asked me how I'm feeling - why not just let me answer.

    What's worse is that most often, the people saying this are men.  What the f*** do you know?  You've never been pregnant.

    /rant 

    I know you aren't looking for advice here Michelle, but after getting so annoyed by this too, I found a solution that not only shuts those people up, but pisses them off.  When they ask how I feel, I always reply with, "I feel SO GREAT, I don't even feel pregnant!  Didn't you feel like crap when you were X weeks pregnant?"

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  • stacylustacylu

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    DS#@ pooped all over MIL yesterday when she first arrived for a visit at our house.  I had to step out of the room to LOL.  :-)

     

    Ok - this is awesome. Seriously.

     

    I had yesterday off but took DD to daycare and it was WONDERFUL. I got tons done and had time to browse in the store instead of rushing around. 

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