1st Trimester

An open apology to my 1st trimester wife.

I know you browse this board frequently and we both know I'm a better  writer than orator, so I thought I'd try my luck in offering you this belated apology. Part of me feels that the public disclosure is a suggestion of my sincerity. I hope you feel the same. 

I'm sorry my father disregarded our wish to keep our secret a secret. Thankfully, the spread was contained, but this doesn't excuse his carelessness. I understand that, though he may be excited to be a first-time grandfather, it is a matter of courtesy that my family respect our desire to be selective with whom we tell until WE opt to go public. Given our history with my family, this should come as no surprise and I apologize for them. They're not perfect, but they love you endlessly. Nor am I perfect, but Lord knows I strive to make you as happy as I possibly can. 

I'm sorry my mother definitively asserted that she wasn't hosting a baby shower and that she didn't feel one was necessary. I know that's not her decision to make. To her credit, she is opting to host the christening (surprise! we're raising the child Catholic!), but her will is not mutually exclusive of all others and that's why there WILL be an elegant baby shower in your honor.

I would also like to apologize for my cooking, which only exacerbates your nausea. I understand why you prefer potato chips and macaroni salad to my dry chicken. I'm also sorry for indiscriminately including all of your clothing in the laundry (but I do think there is some blame to share there . . . if you don't want it washed, it should be put away). I'm sorry for tending more toward the center of the bed, that's something I'll try to correct as your bump grows and grows. I'm sorry I can't make you feel as beautiful as you truly are. That woman you see in the mirror today is the same one that appeared stunningly breathtaking on the day of our wedding. I'm sorry for not finishing that Easter card that I promised you, the next Easter is now only 11 months away! I'm sorry my brother's dog keeps peeing on our floor, she's getting better . . .

I'm sorry that we live so far from your family and I'm grateful for your sacrifice. I know fate will lead us to the right place, whether its here or there. I'm sorry for not smiling during our recessional at our wedding. To this day, I have no explanation. It is the most treasured day of my life.  I'm sorry I can't give you all the things I wish I could. If I had the means, I would shower you with all your heart desires. Instead, I offer you all that I can, my undying love for you and our little lime-sized nugget in your belly. Without hesitation, I would sacrifice anything for you both.

Tomorrow morning is our first ultrasound and I can't wait to meet our little child; to hear the faint little heartbeat, to know that we are getting closer to the arrival of a little gift that our love created for us to share with the world.    

Again, I'm sorry for my family's indiscretions, and my own. You're the love of my life and I guarantee that love will only grow exponentially for you and our little one. I welcome all the future has in store, elated in knowing that we'll be living through it all together. 

I love you. 

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Re: An open apology to my 1st trimester wife.

  • That is just darling!
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  • I had prided myself on NOT being a typical emotional pregnant woman.  Until now.  Thank you for making me cry!  That was the sweetest thing I think I have ever read.
  • :::butts in:::

    Crying

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  • Crying That is so sweet.
  • imageBratNat:

    :::butts in:::

    Crying

    :::butts out:::

    this.

  • This is so sweet! I forgive you for everything even though I'm not your wife!

     

  • imageMrsL.inMarch:
    WTF

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  • OMG!! I am crying and he's not even my DH! What a wonderful man you have!
  • lvisserlvisser member

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

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  • imageMommyof2texans:
    I had prided myself on NOT being a typical emotional pregnant woman.  Until now.  Thank you for making me cry!  That was the sweetest thing I think I have ever read.

     

    this.

  • Am I the only one who thinks it's totally bizarre to post such an intimate letter on the flippin' internet?

    Why not send this directly to your wife? Are you looking for a lot of "oooooh, you're such a sweetie" responses? Weird beans.

    FWIW, it sounds like your wife is being a bit of a harpie. Surprise

     

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  • Well I sure as hell would forgive you!!!!

    Take it from a girl in her 3rd Trimester.....it just gets harder for her from here on out. But if you continue to love and support and acknowledge her discomforts and concerns, you will be her biggest support and she will love you and be thankful for you no matter how much you or your family accidently mess up!!!

  • imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

    YesYesYesYesYesYes

  • imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

     

    This. Especially the second part. I would be absolutely mortified if mine did this. 

  • imagestace42:

    This is so sweet! I forgive you for everything even though I'm not your wife!

     

    My thoughts exactly!

     

  • imagephillyandashley:
    imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

    Ehh..I think it's sweet.  No one knows who it is except him and obviously his wife when she reads it.  It's not like he put her name.

    This. Especially the second part. I would be absolutely mortified if mine did this. 

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  • Um, really? This is pretty lame. Hmm
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  • imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

    I wondered this myself.  I know my husband would never know what a DH is (look at "his" screen name)

  • so who does this whack job belong to?  any takers?  fess up ladies...

     

    edit:  and FWIW if you aren't a troll your wife seems like a piece of work.

  • 1st Tri you need to shut this MUD down NOW. If it were legit - Yo Buddy, say it with flowers, order in dinner and get the hell out of your wife's sandbox.

    This is an estrogen-only site thanks. I don't want to talk about the doctor feeling up my cervix, vadge or taking an anal swab with you about.

    ?

  • imageBratNat:
    imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

    I wondered this myself.  I know my husband would never know what a DH is (look at "his" screen name)

    My husband does because he thought we were calling our husbands d*ck heads. 

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  • imageBratNat:
    imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

    I wondered this myself.  I know my husband would never know what a DH is (look at "his" screen name)

    Good point. Sounds like this is someone's pathetic attempt at an AE. No

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  • imagelvisser:

    I'm sorry... but really?

     

    First off... MUD.

     

    Second off... I love that my DH has the balls to apologize to me IN PERSON and not on the nest.  

    . Am I the only one who thinks this is douchey? I mean the letter is sweet if he wrote it on paper and gave it to her. If my husband aired my dirty laundry on a website I would nut punch him so that this is our only child! I'm glad my husband can speak his feelings to me personally face to face
  • imagejenny1980:

    FWIW, it sounds like your wife is being a bit of a harpie. Surprise

    Yup

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  • I think this is absolutely beautiful.  Just not on the bump.

    And no, this is not my husband.

  • This sort of creeps me out.  I prefer that my husband send something like via email if he communicates better that way.  But whatever.

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  • I balled me eyes out..very sweet.
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  • Wow! Well, whatever it is... exquisitely written! Bravo!!

    Maybe you should be in the business of writing apology hallmark cards ;)

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    imageMrsL.inMarch:
    WTF

    Glad I'm not the only one.

  • imageMissyC979:
    Um, really? This is pretty lame. Hmm

    Glad I'm not the only one thinking this. Pathetic. 

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  • LMS05LMS05 member
    In no way would this make me cry and I cry easily. It was sweet, but also strange to post this online.
  • I think it's sweet. He's a keeper!

    And FWIW, my DH knows what a DH is.

  • i can't believe you people fell for this. this is so obviously mud.  weird that this guy joined 4 days ago and waits til now to post his aplogy.

    LAME-O X a BAJILLION

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  • imageAngieandTony:

    i can't believe you people fell for this. this is so obviously mud.  weird that this guy joined 4 days ago and waits til now to post his aplogy.

    LAME-O X a BAJILLION

    As a newbie myself, there is a waiting period before you can post.

    Also FWIW my husband  knows what DH means.

  • imagejenny1980:

    Am I the only one who thinks it's totally bizarre to post such an intimate letter on the flippin' internet?

    Why not send this directly to your wife? Are you looking for a lot of "oooooh, you're such a sweetie" responses? Weird beans.

    FWIW, it sounds like your wife is being a bit of a harpie. Surprise

     

    Nope, I am totally weirded out by this as well. 

  • Do you not have your wife's email address?

    If this isn't MUD, then you need to buck up, be a man and tell your wife in person, or at least in a card.

    Copy/Paste/Print/Put in a card.

    kthanks

  • tbirt24tbirt24 member

    Me? cry? psh.

     

     

    ....guilty.

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