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Ran into my aunt when we went in for the D&C

Pumpkin&RooPumpkin&Roo
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It was in the outpatient surgery area and she was there to have a hernia fixed.  My family didn't know about the pregnancy and I really don't want anyone to know so we told her to clam up about it but we're not sure if she'll comply. 

 It's odd the things you find out when you tell people though.  When I told her, she told me that she had had a miscarriage and that my mom also had one between my two oldest brothers, neither of which I knew about.  I also told one of the guys I work with because he knew I was out for a day to go to the doctor and he was worried about me.  He's an older guy with three olders kids, but he said that his wife had had three miscarriages while they were having kids. 

I know you would never wish this on anyone, but it's kind of comforting to know it's happened to lots of other people who went on to have big healthy families.  Is it terrible to feel that way?

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Re: Ran into my aunt when we went in for the D&C

  • KelandJohnWKelandJohnW

    No , its not terrible to feel that way. That's normal to feel like that.  when something like this happened to me I felt abnormal, I have even felt in some way it was my fault,like why couldn't my body hold that baby? Did I do something wrong, etc? When I heard a few other people say that its happened to them too it is a comforting feeling, to know that your not the only one in your "circle" that this has happened too. I know exactly how you feel. I hope you are feeling Ok, and I am sorry for your loss. ((HUGS))

    Kelly.

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  • smileees4usmileees4u member
    I felt the same way! After my miscarriage, it was AMAZING how many people came forward and shared the same information. And, they were so open about it!  I did feel comforted that even though something so awful could happen, there is something great on the otherside! As people would share their stories with me, they kept reassuring me that it is possible to get through this time and then have a healthy baby next time!  Plus, it was nice to talk to people who had experienced the same emotions I was going through!
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  • TravelinMamaTravelinMama member
    imagePumpkin&Roo:

    Is it terrible to feel that way?

     I don't think so, I hope not at least.  Although I don't wish it on anyone and hurt for all that's been through it, I'm glad there are others in my same situation who know how I'm feeling and what I'm going through.

    Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
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  • AlpacaBunnyAlpacaBunny member
    When we started telling people about our trouble TTC and miscarriage it was amazing to find out how many other people had TTTC and had gone through losses.  I found it rather comforting too, to know other people knew what we were going through, and it made me not feel so alone in all of it.
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  • Jolaine83Jolaine83 member

    I was actually with a co-worker in classroom when I started spotting.  She prepared me for what might happen, and then admitted to me the same thing happened to her a little over a year ago.  I work every day with this lady, we've become good co-worker buddies and despite the fact that we talk about pregnancy all the time, the topic hadn't ever come up before.  It was comforting.  Especially when she told me that because this happened on our first cycle of TTC, that if nothing else we were fertile.  It was a good thought that kept me sane through the hours of obsessive checking for more spotting. 

    Since then, I've had lots of people tell me of their stories.  If nothing else, it make me feel less alone.

    Lucas Arlo - 2/26/10, Cordelia Jane - 1/20/12 
    #3 is due 8/27/14

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