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TCsbride
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This just seems wrong....
TCsbride
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Long story short, a co worker of mine went to her cousin-in-laws shower a couple weeks ago and was telling me how ridiculous the shower was. She's 18 and every single one of her friends already had a baby, just kept going on and on about all of them raising their kids together, how great WIC was because they get everything for free, and how she could have cared less about any present that wasn't cue little clothes or shoes. She said she didn't even know what her gift to her was (a hooter hider and breast pump that was on her registry!)
So, she had the baby Thursday and sent the link to the hospital photos on Friday. They were SO much better than what I remembered they offered with DS just two years ago. The place was called Bella Baby Photography, so I just figured the hospital (we'll be delivering at the same one) had changed how their "first photo" thing worked. So I emailed the company to see what it was all about.
Um, yeah, just got an email......hospital photos start at $475 for the cheapest package! ARE you KIDDING me? The photos weren't that good and I'm spending $150 per session for a professional photographer who is 10X better and that includes a CD so I can make prints myself.
I guess it just makes me a little mad that here, this girl has a child out of wedlock with her BF on purpose so they get almost everything for free, and yet they have $500 to blow on professional photography in the hospital? Just seems a little wrong to me.....
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Re: This just seems wrong....
Wow. Obviously since they dont have to pay for everything, they find random things to blow their $$ on, instead of, IDK, using it for the baby? And I mean actual products LO can use, not photos.
While I congradulate WIC and all it does to help moms/families in need, they should screen their applicants better.
I also dont understand getting KU on purpose when you're just dating that young. I would have been scared shiitless @ having a kid that age!
wow.
I'm almost as speechless as I was on Thursday, when I learned of the 14 y/o girl in our maternity unit delivering her SECOND child. Her mother (baby's grandmother) was in our lobby talking about how cute her grandson was... yeah. she's 29.
One of the maternity nurses (who said the whole thing made her want to puke) pointed out that I more than DOUBLE the girl's age. and I'm having my first.
don't know who needs to be throat punched or tube tied first...
Simple. Both of them. 14 and having #2?!?! What did she do? Hop on the 1st guy when she got her period?
We aren't married, I'm 22, and I got pregnant on the shot...I don't see how the wedlock comment is relavant to the situation. She is obviously immature and is milking the system for everything that she can.
We spent extra money on the 3d/4d ultrasound, we're buying a lot of our own "designer" baby stuff. If I had an interest to have that professional of pictures taken at the hospital, we would have that as well. So being young and unmarried doesn't mean that someone shouldn't have those things.
The point that I do agree with is the WIC stuff. You wouldn't believe how many people at my office (who themselves are on WIC) have come up to me, their supervisor, and told me that I should go on WIC because of the free stuff. I doubt I would even qualify because of how much I make, but it amazes me that those girls (who had babies very young) would be so open and pushy for the government aid. I don't need it, I wouldn't want it unless I could not feed my child while living on the bare minimum.
I work L&D and see stuff like this all the time. the more kids you have the more $$ you get too, its sick. And then it turns into an awful cycle. And its true they are always blowing their money on ridiculous stuff, like they will have cell phones, ipods, laptops, of course tons of cutesy baby clothes & then a used garage sale carseat that is like 10 years old. Priorities....
I hate when I see people who are mentally slow have babies, its heart breaking. You just want to scoop the baby up & run....seriously the stories I could tell you.
I don't even want to get started on this.....it makes me so mad. My DH works 7 days a week right now because I've been out of work from PTL because that's what a responsible person does....it makes me so mad when people abuse welfare. I see people use EBT cards at the grocery store and they are buying name brand food and a bunch of crap they don't need....meanwhile I buy bare minimum because we can't afford $200 in groceries right now even though my DH paid almost $30,000 in taxes last year (yes, you read that right, in taxes!).
Welfares for people who truely need it and should only be used for the shortest period of time possible, not a 14 year old who has baby #2 on the way and buying ridiculous things. AHHHHH! I have to stop, I'm fuming.
I have no problem with people having kids out of wedlock- it happens. As long as they're happy and baby is loved, its all great, fine, and dandy.
I made the comment due to the fact that she's 18. And purposely got KU. You're 22, have more life experience (common sense), and have cash flowing in, not dependent upon mommy and daddy. Besides, you mentioned the shot-you weren't trying to get KU, it happened. Big difference. The maturity level is not there for most 18 yr olds to be making the decision to have a kid- that is what I was getting at.
lmao
That is absolutely disgusting. This undue sense of entitlement really makes me sick, particularly considering so many of us work so hard and pay so much in taxes, and are taking responsibility for our own families.
But it has nothing to do with age. I'm older but I see nothing wrong with having children younger or out of wedlock, if you are able to take care of them. My mom had me when she was 15, and it was tough, but she worked her tail off, refused to accept any kind of public assistance, and was a great mom and role model. And this was back in the 1970's when this situation was looked down on and no one made it easier for the mother. I know I sound old fashioned but I think the government/society makes it way too easy for girls in this situation, allows them to never grow up, and teaches them they do not need to care for themselves and their families because someone will always step in and care for them.