Pregnant after a Loss

Are you one of the first of your friends to get pregnant?

I am!  Some of my friends slacked off in college, and are still there or aren't in serious relationships, and I have some that are just getting engaged now.

It just seems like I am in a different place as some of them (as I am out of the drinking-all-the-time-is-cool-phase or the did-he-cheat-on-me-on-vacation phase) and I have a hard time relating. 

I only have one or two friends who have kids... it gets lonely!

Does anyone else feel like that sometimes?

Re: Are you one of the first of your friends to get pregnant?

  • I have a few different groups of friends, in some of them I am the first one to get pregnant, in others I am one of the last! It's kinda funny. I know what you mean about being past those other phases.
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  • hahah! my friends have all been bitten by the bug, it seems! my best friend had a baby june '08 and that started a chain reaction - two in february, one due in two weeks, et cetera. i have been married longer than all of them and it's bizarre, actually, because we don't do things because of each other, but it's almost creepy how everyone is having children at the same time.

     

  • Most of our friends are several years older than us, and they do have kids or are starting to have them.  Out of our college friends we are in the first wave of those having kids. 
  • oh i hear you!  i only have 1 good friend that is also married.  my other gf's are dh's friends' wives.  which is fine, but of my friends, most are still single, going out, dating forever or dating losers.  and i have little in common with them. kind of bums me out, but i just don't have much in common with them at this point. 
  • I am also the first to get pregnant!  I have a couple friends who are married and the rest are single and doing the single thing.  I only have one friend at work who has a baby.
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  • Not even close! I'm 38 though and this is my second. Most of my friends are pretty much done at this point.
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  • We're in the middle. Half of our friends have kids and the other half don't....we still have a lot of single friends. Sad we hardly see them anymore because we have nothing in common these days. Funny how time changes things. In my close knit group of about 8 friends, Im the first to be pregnant...the others aren't too far behind!
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    I am.  It has definitely strained our friendships because most of my friends go out partying and such every weekend.  We have made a lot of new friends though that have more in common.  I am the only one out of my old group of friends who is even married.
  • I have one other friend with a baby, and one with twins on the way, so yep - definitely one of the first in our group!
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    I am one of the first. I'm from the Boston area where most people get married & has kids a little later than average. So at 30 yo most of my friends are just married or not yet married. 

    I moved away from home so I'm not geographically close to my friends anyway. Our best friends here are a gay couple who don't want kids, and a couple whose kids are already a little older... I have thought about joining some kind of prenatal yoga class to meet other moms-to-be. 

  • Most of my friends don't have kids - to be honest a lot are going through divorces or are bar-hopping looking for guys.  There are some more serious ones that are pursuing their careers first or are taking it slow in a relationship after having a divorce.

    Fortunately I have met some great mommies that I am great friends with now (who I didn't know before I had my DD).  

    Unfortunately I also moved 3.5 hours away from my hometown when I got married, so it isolated me from my old friends (who I still keep in touch with, but can't really see regularly).  Some of them do have kids.

  • Most of my old friends who don't live in the same city or state as me have kids already. But of my friends here, I'm pretty much one of the first despite being 36 years old! My married friends don't want kids, and my friends who do want them are all still single. It kinda sucks. I have one friend that has 2 kids, but she lives 45 minutes away and hasn't left her house since having the kids, and another friend that just had her first in January but I don't see her very often either. I'm hoping when I start prenatal yoga and baby classes I'll meet some other moms or moms-to-be.
  • Alot of our friends are married but we are the first to be pregnant, we were the first to be married and buy a house too though so I'm sure their will be babies gallore soon!
  • Dh and I are actually the last of our friends to have a baby. In the 3 1/2 yrs we had been ttc we've had friends have their 2nd babies and they all started ttc after us.

    Oh well it is what it is. Now we won't be the only couple at the get togethers w/out children!

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