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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
I'm going to whine a little, and sound very selfish... flame away
So, it's Mother's Day tomorrow, right? And, I know that James will not do anything, which is ok under the circumstances, although I will give him a gift from the girls on Father's Day. Normally, my dad would take the big kids to the store to buy small gifts from them to give to me. And he was going to take them to his house today/tonight, presumably to do that (and to give me a break). But, when I called to confirm the time, he canceled without giving a reason. So, no babysitting tonight and no gifts, I guess. But, it's not all about gifts, so I am trying not to care that I won't get anything. My kids probably made me cards or something, so that will be nice.
It's the middle of finals, one Monday, so I have to study. I spent this afternoon at study group and will have to study more tomorrow. I got James to agree to take the babies from noon today until noon tomorrow, rather than all day/night tomorrow like he would usually do so that I can spend most of Mother's Day with all of my kids. The plan was that the older kids and I were going to go hang out with my BF after I finished study group (they went swimming). We were going to go see Star Trek at IMAX, have dinner out, etc. It wasn't for Mother's Day, but it was the only real "thing" that was special this weekend. Except that now he didn't sleep well last night and isn't feeling well, so he is pretty much just laying in bed. We could do something tomorrow, but then I'll have the babies, too, so it limits a lot of what we could do... and nothing is planned.
So, then I thought that I could take the older kids out to dinner and to see a movie, and was excited about that. But Emilia started throwing up and is not feeling well. I feel bad for her, all of my kids have gone through this bug (it's brief, thank god) over the past week. But, that means nothing can go on tonight after all.
She will probably feel better tomorrow, and we'll be able to go somewhere in the afternoon to enjoy the sun, and maybe go out to dinner. So it's not the end of the world. I've just never had a Mother's Day before that was so not a holiday on any level... no one planned anything or did anything. It makes me feel sort of alone.
Anyway, thanks for reading if you made it this far.
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Re: I'm going to whine a little, and sound very selfish... flame away
I can't imagine how hard this Mother's Day is for you...especially with everything going on. I'm sending healthy vibes your way and hope that tomorrow is better.
HUGS!
Married 8.13.2005, M/C 12/8/06- 5 weeks, M/C 2/27/07- 7 weeks, M/C w/ D&C 8/10/09-6.5 weeks *Charles Lawrence born 5/2/08 @ 3:14am, 7lb 8oz, 20.5 inches. Clomid, Crinone and baby aspirin. *Alexandra Claire born 9/14/10 @ 9:52am 6lb 14oz, 20.5 inches. Femara, Crinone and baby aspirin.
Yeah, we are going to run out and grab dinner and then pick up a movie, popcorn, candy, etc. for movie night here. And tomorrow will be fun, we'll go to the arboretum or go do a very mild "hike" or something fun.
I think it's just the idea of no one planning anything for me. The reality is that this is pretty close to what I'd do if there was someone around to plan, but I have to do it all myself. I would really have just liked some small thing planned or given by someone else, you know?
Not selfish. Sucks that your plans have been changed.
How long have you been dating your BF? He's meeting your kids? This is serious!
I've worked with him since I went back to work in a new role just over a year ago, so he'd already met my kids a few times at work functions, company picnics, etc. We've been officially dating for about 2 months.
We don't do a lot of stuff with the kids, but do try to do something once a week or so. I kept James out of their lives entirely for the first year that we dated and, while it seemed like a good idea at the time, it largely wasn't... for a lot of reasons. I'm trying a new approach this time. So far, it seems to be working out pretty well... they like him a lot but aren't overly attached.
I'm sorry nothing got planned for your Mother's Day.
Introducing your child(ren) to the guy you're dating can be tricky. I never introduced any of the men I dated to Jordan...but then again, none of them were anything serious, nor were any of them really worth writing home about. I knew within 3 weeks of dating Sean that he was the one and we would be married. Jordan met him after we had been dating for exactly one month. He was more nervous about it than she was. Fortunately, they hit it off instantly.